Despite what many bridal catalogues, wedding websites, friends, family members, celebrities, etc., might have you believe, you don't have to spend a lot of money to have a nice wedding. I personally planned my husband's and my vow renewal ceremony (since we eloped, this ceremony was our "wedding," with almost all the trimmings) for under $2,000. It can be done.
The average cost of a wedding today is $22,000. Many couples actually take out loans to pay for their weddings. I'm of the personal opinion that, unless you just have a lot of extra money lying around, you shouldn't have to pay nearly this much for your wedding. Most couples can't realistically afford it, either (hence the loans). Why put yourself in debt for something that's going to last only a few hours, when you could save that money for your marriage, which will probably last longer, unless you happen to be Drew Barrymore.
For those of you looking to plan a wedding on a shoestring budget, don't worry...there are quite a few resources for you, including books and websites. I've also decided to post my personal tips here for you to peruse and consider.
Location
The price of your ceremony and reception location(s) can make or break you, budgetwise. Don't expect to get a great deal simply by renting out the church you've been attending since childhood, either, although there are always exceptions. If you can get a good price from your church, great! If not, here are some other options:
-museums and art galleries, especially smaller venues
-local colleges (it doesn't have to be your alma mater, either; a lot of colleges rent out their facilities for such functions)
-historical houses
-state parks
-botanical gardens
-zoos (they usually only rent out for receptions)
-local hotels
-theatres/concert halls (not movie theatres; the stage kind *wink*)
This is just a very small list. Be creative; think outside the box! Drive around your area with the purpose of looking for possible locations. You'll be surprised at what you see as possibilities! And never underestimate the power of having a "friend of a friend of a cousin" who has a huge, beautiful mansion. The main thing is to ask!
Also, a lot of locations will give you a deal of sorts if you agree to have both your ceremony and reception at their site. Some will even provide catering for the reception for a discount if you go with this option. You must ask about all of these things; ask them for deals, for discounts. The worst they can say is "no."
Dress
There are tons of discount bridal shops on the Internet. Also, there's probably a David's Bridal near you; be sure to check them out, as they often have lovely dresses for low prices.
A lot of designers have a separate "informal" or "destination wedding" collection, and these dresses are almost always under $1,000, and usually much cheaper than that, even directly from a bridal shop. Also, look for bridesmaids dresses in styles you like, as they are much cheaper than wedding gowns.
If you buy from a bridal shop, be wary of alteration costs. Ask up front about these costs.
If you buy from the Internet, be sure to do so at least a couple of months before your wedding, even if they promise "lightning-fast" delivery, just to be on the safe side and to allow time for alterations.
eBay always has a huge selection of bridal gowns, but be wary: some of these so-called "designer" dresses are not actually by the promised designer. Also, eBay has many bidders who are "professional" bidders of sorts and who will sneak in during the last few minutes (even seconds) of an auction and bid a dress right out from under you, leaving you with no time to outbid them. I've seen my share of brides-to-be heartbroken after losing their dream dress in an auction. So just be aware of that.
Also, if you know someone who's a fabulous seamstress, why not have your dress made? You can get a pattern from McCalls or a similar design catalog, or--if you're especially creative--come up with a design yourself. Or you can go with an old standby, and try on dresses in a bridal shop and get someone to (inconspicuously) take pictures of you in the dresses, then take the pictures to a seamstress.
Invitations
Invitations are often brides' budget-breakers, because many people don't expect them to be as expensive as they are. You can easily avoid these costs by either ordering your invitations off of eBay or making them yourself. You can find great invitation stationery at stationery stores (and at Target!) for budget prices, and you can either use your own printer or go to Kinko's. There are also several invitation kits for computers that will help you with design and layout.
I personally feel that handmade invitations are much more meaningful, and often much more attractive, than "professional" invitations. You have the freedom to do whatever you want, and there's just something very special about that personal do-it-yourself touch.
Favors
Make your own! Again, eBay has wonderful sources for wedding favors, and you can also get supplies from Michael's, Target, or any craft store. Most wedding sites have tons of favor ideas.
The cake
If you're having a small wedding, you might consider making the cake yourself, or getting a friend or family member with culinary talent to make one.
Publix also makes beautiful wedding cakes for great prices. For example, 3-tiered cake is a flat rate of $159. Compare that to most bakeries, where you'll pay around $7-$10 per slice (on average).
Decorations
eBay, Michael's, Target... As far as flowers go, remember that you will save tons of money by only having flowers that are in season at the time of your wedding.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Monday, December 15, 2008
Bridal Gowns: Making A Choice
Shopping for your wedding gown is a very exciting and fun thing to do, but it can also become very confusing. Choosing just one gown out of the thousands of options available can make even the most organized bride's head spin.
The first time you walk into a bridal shop, chances are you'll be overwhelmed by all the choices you've got. The best thing you can do to prepare yourself is to spend some time looking through the national bridal magazines to see which styles attract you. Granted, the gowns look different on professional models, but the pictures will give you a good idea of what's in style and what options are available.
While you're paging through the magazines, pay attention to details: necklines, sleeves, appliques on the train. Take the dress apart in your mind and consider each piece separately.
Don't rip out the pages. Instead, mark them and take the whole book with you when you go shopping. This is important because bridal shops often call the manufacturers for more information about gowns, and to do this they need to know page numbers.
When you do finally venture out, take the time to plan ahead. Most bridal salons prefer to show gowns by appointment, so call ahead. Appointments will last between one and two hours, so be sure you space them out.
Whatever you do, don't try to squeeze it in on your lunch hour. Shopping for your bridal gown isn't like looking for a casual outfit, where you can go into the store and look through the racks. It's very much a one-on-one process. You need to sit down with your consultant and discuss what you're looking for before you try on a single gown. An appointment assures that you will get this kind of relaxed atmosphere, and it guarantees that the consultant will be able to take the time to do everything possible to get you the gown you want. You'll have much more success if you aren't pressed for time.
Your first couple of outings should be purely for exploration. You'll try on a lot of gowns before you decide on one, but the more you try, the better an idea you'll get of exactly what you want. Believe it or not, though, it is possible to try on too many gowns. Once you've settled on a neckline and general style, stick with it. Try not to fall into the trap of trying on every dress you see; you'll only confuse yourself. If that straight skirt didn't look good yesterday, it's not going to look any better today.
Have an idea of what you'd like, but keep an open mind. It may not look like much on the hanger, but it could be the dress of your dreams. When you try on a gown, focus on the way it looks and feels. Is it comfortable? Does it emphasize your good points and hide your flaws?
Shopping alone can often be difficult. Take with you one or two people whose opinions you truly value (most brides count on Mom and their maid- or matron-of-honor). If possible, take the same people each time so you all are equally well informed as to what you've seen and liked. It's important that you limit yourself to only one or two people, though, or you'll end up confused by too many conflicting opinions. Bring the others once you've made your decision.
Most of all, remember that this is YOUR wedding gown. Make certain you're not trying to please or impress anybody else with your choice. Nobody will be impressed by a gown that looks terrible on you, or one that is clearly uncomfortable. In the end, the only opinion that counts is your own. If you feel beautiful in the wedding gown of your choice, you will be.
If the gowns you've seen have all started to blur in your mind, it's time to stop looking. Go back and re-try your favorites, then narrow it down from there. If you're having trouble deciding, here's a handy trick: Over a period of a week or two, don't look at any gowns. As you concentrate on other aspects of the wedding, picture yourself walking down the aisle and note which dress you're wearing. Chances are that's the one you'll buy.
A word of caution, though. Bridal gowns usually take anywhere from three to six months just to come in, and you'll need about a month on top of that for alterations. Obviously there are exceptions to this rule, but leave yourself as much time as possible before the wedding to be sure you can get the dress you want.
How do you choose a bridal shop? Keep in mind that you'll be working with these people for the better part of a year, if not longer. You need to trust them and be able to get answers to your questions. Some things you should find out about include whether you'll be able to see the gown without an appointment; how it will be stored; if anyone will be able to see the gown when you are not present; and if you will be able to take the gown out of the store and then return it for safekeeping until the wedding.
Check with the Better Business Bureau for unresolved complaints. As far as payment goes, most shops require a fifty percent deposit, with the balance due either at your first fitting or when you pick up the dress. Be wary of any shop that asks for more than fifty percent before the dress comes in.
Talk to your consultant about what the price of the gown includes. Many shops include all or part of your alterations, and some include the veil as well. This is very important to know when you shop for the best price. The dress with the lowest initial price can end up being the most expensive when all the hidden costs are added.
Alterations can be a big added expense, and you can count on needing them. You're taking a lot of time and spending a lot of money to get the perfect bridal gown, so once you find it, don't skimp on the alterations. The way the gown is altered will have a big influence on how good it looks on you. The most beautiful dress in the world will look awful if it doesn't fit properly, so be sure that your gown is altered by an experienced bridal seam stress.
Doing alterations on bridal attire is very different than altering everyday clothing, because there is much more detail and the proper fit is essential. For example, if a blouse is a little loose through the body, you probably won't be too concerned -- you may even prefer it that way. If your bridal gown is loose, however, it'll show, and it'll be pretty uncomfortable.
If alterations are not included in the price of your gown, find out the charge for each procedure. A hem may cost $30, but if your skirt is lined it can be considered two hems and you'll pay twice as much as you expected. Bustling the train is another major expense. Also find out if pressing is included. With something as important as your wedding gown, you probably don't have either the facilities or the skill to press it properly yourself.
Be aware that a lot of manufacturers copy each other, so know what you're getting. You may find a copy of the gown you want at a much lower price, but be aware that it may not be of the same quality. Even though you only wear the dress once, you don't want it to fall apart by the end of the day. Talk with your consultant about different manufacturers to be sure you're get ting the quality you expect.
Whether or not it's your first marriage, your wedding day is something you've dreamed about. Selecting only one gown out of the thousands of choices can be a difficult and confusing process. Instead of letting your decision be a source of worry, take your time and enjoy it. This is one of the most important days of your life, so it should be exactly what you've wanted.
The first time you walk into a bridal shop, chances are you'll be overwhelmed by all the choices you've got. The best thing you can do to prepare yourself is to spend some time looking through the national bridal magazines to see which styles attract you. Granted, the gowns look different on professional models, but the pictures will give you a good idea of what's in style and what options are available.
While you're paging through the magazines, pay attention to details: necklines, sleeves, appliques on the train. Take the dress apart in your mind and consider each piece separately.
Don't rip out the pages. Instead, mark them and take the whole book with you when you go shopping. This is important because bridal shops often call the manufacturers for more information about gowns, and to do this they need to know page numbers.
When you do finally venture out, take the time to plan ahead. Most bridal salons prefer to show gowns by appointment, so call ahead. Appointments will last between one and two hours, so be sure you space them out.
Whatever you do, don't try to squeeze it in on your lunch hour. Shopping for your bridal gown isn't like looking for a casual outfit, where you can go into the store and look through the racks. It's very much a one-on-one process. You need to sit down with your consultant and discuss what you're looking for before you try on a single gown. An appointment assures that you will get this kind of relaxed atmosphere, and it guarantees that the consultant will be able to take the time to do everything possible to get you the gown you want. You'll have much more success if you aren't pressed for time.
Your first couple of outings should be purely for exploration. You'll try on a lot of gowns before you decide on one, but the more you try, the better an idea you'll get of exactly what you want. Believe it or not, though, it is possible to try on too many gowns. Once you've settled on a neckline and general style, stick with it. Try not to fall into the trap of trying on every dress you see; you'll only confuse yourself. If that straight skirt didn't look good yesterday, it's not going to look any better today.
Have an idea of what you'd like, but keep an open mind. It may not look like much on the hanger, but it could be the dress of your dreams. When you try on a gown, focus on the way it looks and feels. Is it comfortable? Does it emphasize your good points and hide your flaws?
Shopping alone can often be difficult. Take with you one or two people whose opinions you truly value (most brides count on Mom and their maid- or matron-of-honor). If possible, take the same people each time so you all are equally well informed as to what you've seen and liked. It's important that you limit yourself to only one or two people, though, or you'll end up confused by too many conflicting opinions. Bring the others once you've made your decision.
Most of all, remember that this is YOUR wedding gown. Make certain you're not trying to please or impress anybody else with your choice. Nobody will be impressed by a gown that looks terrible on you, or one that is clearly uncomfortable. In the end, the only opinion that counts is your own. If you feel beautiful in the wedding gown of your choice, you will be.
If the gowns you've seen have all started to blur in your mind, it's time to stop looking. Go back and re-try your favorites, then narrow it down from there. If you're having trouble deciding, here's a handy trick: Over a period of a week or two, don't look at any gowns. As you concentrate on other aspects of the wedding, picture yourself walking down the aisle and note which dress you're wearing. Chances are that's the one you'll buy.
A word of caution, though. Bridal gowns usually take anywhere from three to six months just to come in, and you'll need about a month on top of that for alterations. Obviously there are exceptions to this rule, but leave yourself as much time as possible before the wedding to be sure you can get the dress you want.
How do you choose a bridal shop? Keep in mind that you'll be working with these people for the better part of a year, if not longer. You need to trust them and be able to get answers to your questions. Some things you should find out about include whether you'll be able to see the gown without an appointment; how it will be stored; if anyone will be able to see the gown when you are not present; and if you will be able to take the gown out of the store and then return it for safekeeping until the wedding.
Check with the Better Business Bureau for unresolved complaints. As far as payment goes, most shops require a fifty percent deposit, with the balance due either at your first fitting or when you pick up the dress. Be wary of any shop that asks for more than fifty percent before the dress comes in.
Talk to your consultant about what the price of the gown includes. Many shops include all or part of your alterations, and some include the veil as well. This is very important to know when you shop for the best price. The dress with the lowest initial price can end up being the most expensive when all the hidden costs are added.
Alterations can be a big added expense, and you can count on needing them. You're taking a lot of time and spending a lot of money to get the perfect bridal gown, so once you find it, don't skimp on the alterations. The way the gown is altered will have a big influence on how good it looks on you. The most beautiful dress in the world will look awful if it doesn't fit properly, so be sure that your gown is altered by an experienced bridal seam stress.
Doing alterations on bridal attire is very different than altering everyday clothing, because there is much more detail and the proper fit is essential. For example, if a blouse is a little loose through the body, you probably won't be too concerned -- you may even prefer it that way. If your bridal gown is loose, however, it'll show, and it'll be pretty uncomfortable.
If alterations are not included in the price of your gown, find out the charge for each procedure. A hem may cost $30, but if your skirt is lined it can be considered two hems and you'll pay twice as much as you expected. Bustling the train is another major expense. Also find out if pressing is included. With something as important as your wedding gown, you probably don't have either the facilities or the skill to press it properly yourself.
Be aware that a lot of manufacturers copy each other, so know what you're getting. You may find a copy of the gown you want at a much lower price, but be aware that it may not be of the same quality. Even though you only wear the dress once, you don't want it to fall apart by the end of the day. Talk with your consultant about different manufacturers to be sure you're get ting the quality you expect.
Whether or not it's your first marriage, your wedding day is something you've dreamed about. Selecting only one gown out of the thousands of choices can be a difficult and confusing process. Instead of letting your decision be a source of worry, take your time and enjoy it. This is one of the most important days of your life, so it should be exactly what you've wanted.
Friday, December 12, 2008
How Do I Choose The Wedding Party
Choosing the wedding party can be one of the most pleasurable or daunting experiences you will encounter while planning your wedding.
While there are no set rules on how many attendants are required, there are some standard guidelines to assist you.
On average a wedding party will consist of 4 to 6 bridesmaids and groomsmen. This number may vary depending on the wishes of the marrying couple. Generally, the more formal a wedding the larger the wedding party typically is. And, as a "rule of thumb", the number of groomsmen in a wedding party should be equal to the number of wedding guests divided by 50 - with a corresponding number of bridesmaids. For example, if you were expecting 400 guests at your wedding, protocol would dictate 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen. Interestingly enough while it normal on occasion to have more groomsmen than bridesmaids in the wedding party - there should never more bridesmaids than groomsmen.
Also please remember when planning your wedding party that "cost matters." The larger the wedding party the more costly your wedding will be. Each additional bridesmaid comes replete with requisite bouquet, gift, and accommodations. So if cost is an issue, the more does not necessarily mean the merrier.
Be thoughtful when narrowing your selection list. This can be quite the task if you have many friends and loved ones. Remember, you can't include everyone. If there are some women that you want to be involved but you can't have them as bridesmaids, ask them to be Honorary Bridesmaids. (Also known as Honor Attendants). They will attend the rehearsal dinner, bridesmaids' luncheon, and sit with the family in the front of the church on the special day.
Finally, and most importantly, be attentive to the needs of your attendants. Invitations to be in the wedding party should be offered at least six months in advance. This will allow adequate time for those involved to make travel arrangements, purchase attire, and save money. Don't be offended if someone you ask opts out of the wedding. Being a bridesmaid or groomsmen requires a great financial/time commitment and for many of us those two commodities are in short supply. Therefore do not assume that a "no" is indicative of a lack of interest or a personal slight. Many people simply cannot afford to be involved.
While there are no set rules on how many attendants are required, there are some standard guidelines to assist you.
On average a wedding party will consist of 4 to 6 bridesmaids and groomsmen. This number may vary depending on the wishes of the marrying couple. Generally, the more formal a wedding the larger the wedding party typically is. And, as a "rule of thumb", the number of groomsmen in a wedding party should be equal to the number of wedding guests divided by 50 - with a corresponding number of bridesmaids. For example, if you were expecting 400 guests at your wedding, protocol would dictate 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen. Interestingly enough while it normal on occasion to have more groomsmen than bridesmaids in the wedding party - there should never more bridesmaids than groomsmen.
Also please remember when planning your wedding party that "cost matters." The larger the wedding party the more costly your wedding will be. Each additional bridesmaid comes replete with requisite bouquet, gift, and accommodations. So if cost is an issue, the more does not necessarily mean the merrier.
Be thoughtful when narrowing your selection list. This can be quite the task if you have many friends and loved ones. Remember, you can't include everyone. If there are some women that you want to be involved but you can't have them as bridesmaids, ask them to be Honorary Bridesmaids. (Also known as Honor Attendants). They will attend the rehearsal dinner, bridesmaids' luncheon, and sit with the family in the front of the church on the special day.
Finally, and most importantly, be attentive to the needs of your attendants. Invitations to be in the wedding party should be offered at least six months in advance. This will allow adequate time for those involved to make travel arrangements, purchase attire, and save money. Don't be offended if someone you ask opts out of the wedding. Being a bridesmaid or groomsmen requires a great financial/time commitment and for many of us those two commodities are in short supply. Therefore do not assume that a "no" is indicative of a lack of interest or a personal slight. Many people simply cannot afford to be involved.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Ten Slimming Tips And Eight Sneaky Ways To Hide Pounds!
Here is some advice to anyone who may be a pound or two (or three) heavier than she would like to be for her special day.
Remember to consult your physician before going on ANY diet or ANY work-out program. Ask your physician the right daily caloric intake for your specific size - then do it !
COUNT CALORIES: the American Medical Association suggests that fat be no more than 30% of your daily intake. So while you are counting calories COUNT FAT GRAMS as well.
Professionals suggest that your protein be 40%, your carbohydrates be 40%, and your fat only be 10% of your daily intake.
FILL UP on fiber. Fiber helps your body carry away waste resulting in lower levels of fat in your body. The American Dietetic Association suggests these fiber sources: whole grains, fruit, vegetables, and dried peas and beans. Fiber keeps you feeling full so you eat less.
DRINK at least 8 glasses of water each day. Drinking water is the best way to cleanse your system and is ESSENTIAL in your fight against fat! Water flushes the fat away. Water also makes you feel full so you eat less. When you feel hungry, drink a glass of water (often when we feel hungry we are merely thirsty.)
EAT LESS red meat. Your body needs protein, but there are much better sources: chicken, fish, cheese, egg whites and soy products.
SPICE UP your foods! Use hot spices, garlic, onion, seasoned salts, etc. You would be surprised what you can do with baked potatoes, vegetables and salads without adding any fat.
Burn some extra calories every day. You don't have to be involved in aerobic classes, spend money on gyms and work-out programs. You can walk, jog, swim, or bike. Just keep it up at least 20 minutes per day. Also, try walking 15 minutes after each meal.
Use the Food Pyramid. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services suggests 6 - 11 servings of bread, rice, cereal or pasta; 3 - 5 servings of vegetables; 2 - 4 servings of fruits; 2 - 3 servings of meat; and limited amounts of fats, oils and sweets. FOR WEIGHT loss use the lower end of the Pyramid's servings. Keep healthy snacks handy like fresh fruit and vegetables and don't let yourself feel hungry. Keep track of what you eat and how you work out, it's a great way to discipline yourself, and.... you will be happier on your wedding day and thereafter.
Now if dieting and exercise just aren't working for you or are working for you but just not fast enough for your approaching wedding day - here are Sandra's tips for "sneaky ways to hide pounds".
Although diet and exercise are the best ways to look fit for your wedding day, here are some sneaky strategies that can make you look even thinner.
Remember to consult your physician before going on ANY diet or ANY work-out program. Ask your physician the right daily caloric intake for your specific size - then do it !
COUNT CALORIES: the American Medical Association suggests that fat be no more than 30% of your daily intake. So while you are counting calories COUNT FAT GRAMS as well.
Professionals suggest that your protein be 40%, your carbohydrates be 40%, and your fat only be 10% of your daily intake.
FILL UP on fiber. Fiber helps your body carry away waste resulting in lower levels of fat in your body. The American Dietetic Association suggests these fiber sources: whole grains, fruit, vegetables, and dried peas and beans. Fiber keeps you feeling full so you eat less.
DRINK at least 8 glasses of water each day. Drinking water is the best way to cleanse your system and is ESSENTIAL in your fight against fat! Water flushes the fat away. Water also makes you feel full so you eat less. When you feel hungry, drink a glass of water (often when we feel hungry we are merely thirsty.)
EAT LESS red meat. Your body needs protein, but there are much better sources: chicken, fish, cheese, egg whites and soy products.
SPICE UP your foods! Use hot spices, garlic, onion, seasoned salts, etc. You would be surprised what you can do with baked potatoes, vegetables and salads without adding any fat.
Burn some extra calories every day. You don't have to be involved in aerobic classes, spend money on gyms and work-out programs. You can walk, jog, swim, or bike. Just keep it up at least 20 minutes per day. Also, try walking 15 minutes after each meal.
Use the Food Pyramid. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services suggests 6 - 11 servings of bread, rice, cereal or pasta; 3 - 5 servings of vegetables; 2 - 4 servings of fruits; 2 - 3 servings of meat; and limited amounts of fats, oils and sweets. FOR WEIGHT loss use the lower end of the Pyramid's servings. Keep healthy snacks handy like fresh fruit and vegetables and don't let yourself feel hungry. Keep track of what you eat and how you work out, it's a great way to discipline yourself, and.... you will be happier on your wedding day and thereafter.
Now if dieting and exercise just aren't working for you or are working for you but just not fast enough for your approaching wedding day - here are Sandra's tips for "sneaky ways to hide pounds".
Although diet and exercise are the best ways to look fit for your wedding day, here are some sneaky strategies that can make you look even thinner.
- Choose the gown that is right for you. FULL SKIRTS HIDE LOTS OF FLAWS like large hips and heavy thighs. A "V" waist which is fitted at least 3" below the waist, gives the illusion of a MUCH smaller waist. "V" or long oval necklines elongate the upper body creating a SLIMMER look. A high neckline tends to accentuate what is already there and gives a bustier look. 3/4 length sleeves will make unshapely arms DISAPPEAR. A tapered sleeve will make your arms look SLIM. These tips can make you look 10 POUNDS smaller. Stay away from large puffy sleeves - they add width!
- Keep your attire proportioned. If you have a long dress and a long train, purchase a long veil.Shorter gowns and veils make you appear wider by cutting your silhouette into sections.
- DON'T ACCENTUATE THE NEGATIVE. If you're bottom heavy, avoid large bows and large bustles. If you want to minimize your bust choose a dress with a plain, not beaded bodice. Know your fabrics. Avoid fabrics that cling to you. SHINY FABRICS REFLECT and make you look LARGER. Look for matte finishes and shantung. Make sure your dress is a good fit, A BAD FITTING DRESS WILL ADD POUNDS.
- Wear sculpting lingerie. Waist trimming, tummy flattening, figure smoothing lingerie. These garments can take inches off. Be sure not to wear something so tight that you can't breathe on your wedding day. You will already be nervous and if you can't breathe freely it could cause you to faint.
- POSTURE IS A MUST! Stomach in, shoulders back, chin up - THIS INSTANTLY HIDES POUNDS.
- A large bouquet, in proportion to the fullness of your skirt, can be strategically placed at your middle as a natural form of camouflage.
- THE CAMERA CAN ADD POUNDS so know your camera angles in case your photographer doesn't. Stand with one foot behind the other, in a "T" fashion, this will make your hips appear smaller. Don't turn sideways, face the camera with your shoulders at a slimming 35 degree angle. HIGH CAMERA ANGLES SLIM and this causes you to look up at the camera stretching the neckline. Make sure the majority of your shots are head and torso shots.
- Get a makeup artist. They can make your cheeks, neck, and nose look thinner. Also, they can bring attention to your lips and eyes which can not only make your face look thinner but WILL MAKE YOU GLOW!
How to pick the right diamond and right wedding rings.
First pick the right jeweler! Weddings today are far different from the ceremonies that took place some 500 years ago, but there are at least two ancient traditions that have stood the test of time, the giving of a token of commitment (today's engagement ring) and the exchange of the wedding bands.
One of the larger purchases of a lifetime may be your engagement ring. Before the engagement ring is purchased the ultimate question in your mind should be "where do I find a jeweler I can trust" and should you NOT have this question in mind then one of the potentially largest purchases of your life could end up being one of the costliest purchases of your life (not necessarily a good way to begin a marriage.)
Choosing a diamond ring takes research and a jeweler that will take the time to help educate you is what you should be looking for. It's very easy to get swept off your feet, but remember to ask the jeweler a LOT of questions. A trustworthy jeweler will welcome questions to help the groom (or the bride and groom) achieve a real comfort level.
Now let's give you an organized path to making a decision of where and what to purchase:
Many of today's knowledgeable shoppers are turning to independently owned jewelry stores because they feel they receive more personal service.
Once again, if you have to ask yourself "what's wrong with this picture" you are NOT in the right shop. Many of day's more knowledgeable shoppers are turning to independently owned jewelry stores because they feel they receive more personal service.
A trustworthy jeweler will be sure you understand the 4 C's of diamond analysis; Color, Cut, Clarity and Carat weight. These characteristics determine a diamonds quality and value.
Color refers to the diamonds natural color. Diamonds are measured on a color scale ranging from D to Z stones. Stones in the Z range are called fancy or colored diamonds. Be aware that a jeweler has the means to synthetically color a stone - this is NOT the same as the real thing!
More than anything the Cut and finish of a stone determines how sparkly and fiery the diamond will be. Although most diamonds can be cut in a variety of shapes the most popular and common are oval, marquise, emerald, pear, round and radiant.
Clarity refers to the presence or absence of flaws (including small specs of black carbon or other minerals) inside the stone. The more flawless the more expensive the stone.
Carat refers to the weight of the diamond.
Remember this is likely to be a MAJOR investment. Learn as much as you can from as many qualified sources as you can find. When you start looking for the jeweler that can best help you make sure you are totally comfortable with your choice -- if you have ANY reservations you are NOT in the right place.
Also remember that after making this extremely important purchase you should have become knowledgeable, comfortable with your decision and you should have made a new lifetime trusted friend in the jeweler you finally selected.
One of the larger purchases of a lifetime may be your engagement ring. Before the engagement ring is purchased the ultimate question in your mind should be "where do I find a jeweler I can trust" and should you NOT have this question in mind then one of the potentially largest purchases of your life could end up being one of the costliest purchases of your life (not necessarily a good way to begin a marriage.)Choosing a diamond ring takes research and a jeweler that will take the time to help educate you is what you should be looking for. It's very easy to get swept off your feet, but remember to ask the jeweler a LOT of questions. A trustworthy jeweler will welcome questions to help the groom (or the bride and groom) achieve a real comfort level.
Now let's give you an organized path to making a decision of where and what to purchase:
- Take a look at the store....is it open warm and friendly? Can you watch the jeweler at work? If you end up asking yourself "what's wrong with this picture" you are NOT in the right shop!
- Ask to look at several loose (unmounted) stones, if the jeweler offers you his loop (the tool used by jewelers to magnify the stone) this is probably a good sign.
- Think of how you are treated and educated by this jeweler. Did you feel a rapport being established? Was the jeweler very helpful or very condescending? Remember, you are the one about to spend the money - you are the one to be catered to. If you end up in the LEAST BIT uncomfortable you are NOT in the right shop!
- Think about how much you know about the jeweler and the jeweler's business. Ask about the jeweler's experience; ask about appraisals; are they free; what will the diamond appraise for; ask about what type of WRITTEN warranty the jeweler offers; and, ask about the possibility of eventually trading up to a larger diamond!
- Be careful when a jeweler offers you a deal like selling you a diamond for "only 1/2 of the appraised value". If the diamond appraises (an appraisal is the diamond's estimated value) for twice as much as you are going to pay for it how is the jeweler staying in business? - is the jeweler not charging enough for the diamonds? - are the diamonds marked up so high that 50% of the established cost is all they are worth? - is the jeweler really giving you a fair and true appraisal of the diamond?
Many of today's knowledgeable shoppers are turning to independently owned jewelry stores because they feel they receive more personal service.
Once again, if you have to ask yourself "what's wrong with this picture" you are NOT in the right shop. Many of day's more knowledgeable shoppers are turning to independently owned jewelry stores because they feel they receive more personal service.
A trustworthy jeweler will be sure you understand the 4 C's of diamond analysis; Color, Cut, Clarity and Carat weight. These characteristics determine a diamonds quality and value.
Color refers to the diamonds natural color. Diamonds are measured on a color scale ranging from D to Z stones. Stones in the Z range are called fancy or colored diamonds. Be aware that a jeweler has the means to synthetically color a stone - this is NOT the same as the real thing!
More than anything the Cut and finish of a stone determines how sparkly and fiery the diamond will be. Although most diamonds can be cut in a variety of shapes the most popular and common are oval, marquise, emerald, pear, round and radiant.
Clarity refers to the presence or absence of flaws (including small specs of black carbon or other minerals) inside the stone. The more flawless the more expensive the stone.
Carat refers to the weight of the diamond.
Remember this is likely to be a MAJOR investment. Learn as much as you can from as many qualified sources as you can find. When you start looking for the jeweler that can best help you make sure you are totally comfortable with your choice -- if you have ANY reservations you are NOT in the right place.
Also remember that after making this extremely important purchase you should have become knowledgeable, comfortable with your decision and you should have made a new lifetime trusted friend in the jeweler you finally selected.
Wedding Coordinators And Planning Consultants
Planning for a wedding or similar special event is often very time consuming and usually can be an extremely hectic process. For most people this is a first time event and many of these first timers just don't know how to go about finding the resources of dependable and reliable professionals. Quite often many first timers don't even realize that professional help is available!
A Wedding Consultant (or Wedding Planner) is an individual or team of individuals who has the background, the knowledge and connections to take your specific wants, desires and budget and create, what many of us who have done it on our own would consider, an event miracle!
In reality many of you may not need a consultant but if you are planning for anything more than a very small gathering of only the closest half dozen friends and very immediate family the Wedding Consultant often allows you to see the cost up front and to take nearly ALL the headaches and potential problems off of your shoulders. In Reality? - By hiring a consultant you only have to follow up with and oversee ONE person and even then (if you have selected a really good one) you shouldn't have to even worry about that one.
Consultants give you personalized attention. They listen to your ideas and desires, help you establish goals and a realistic budget and, then, go to work for you to make it all happen - while saving you time and money! That's right, a good professional is likely to pay for him or herself by knowing where to shop and how to shop for many of those event items you need - and all of this is just for starters - the consultant does much more for you. Here is your source for the most current trends and for proper wedding etiquette.
Today's bride and groom are often busy professional people, working, attending school or both. Some of these individuals are second time brides that are professional people working and raising a family. Often the mothers and the best friends of these busy couples are also either working or live out of town. Hiring a consultant can be very beneficial for all concerned, by taking the pressure off everyone.
So - DO YOU NEED A CONSULTANT & (IF SO) HOW WOULD YOU CHOOSE THE RIGHT CONSULTANT?
Really it's a lot of common sense. Ask wedding professionals; look in wedding magazines (like this one), and the phone books; make appointments to visit with prospective consultants (the first appointment/interview better be free or you don't want them anyway.) Get a general feel for the person you think you will be happy with. REMEMBER, this individual is NOT doing you any favors, THEY are being interviewed by YOU - If you elect to hire this individual you could be spending a lot of time with this person. Make sure you ask for references, ask about their experiences, certification, years of experience, etc. If you are dealing with a certified wedding consultant you are likely dealing with an individual who has taken the time to study, learn and know their business. BY ALL MEANS ask to see their contracts and DON'T sign without carefully reviewing the contract (contracts, no matter how friendly they seem to be, mean legal obligations and legal obligations mean legal advice wouldn't hurt you prior to signing anything.)
A Wedding Consultant (or Wedding Planner) is an individual or team of individuals who has the background, the knowledge and connections to take your specific wants, desires and budget and create, what many of us who have done it on our own would consider, an event miracle!
In reality many of you may not need a consultant but if you are planning for anything more than a very small gathering of only the closest half dozen friends and very immediate family the Wedding Consultant often allows you to see the cost up front and to take nearly ALL the headaches and potential problems off of your shoulders. In Reality? - By hiring a consultant you only have to follow up with and oversee ONE person and even then (if you have selected a really good one) you shouldn't have to even worry about that one.
Consultants give you personalized attention. They listen to your ideas and desires, help you establish goals and a realistic budget and, then, go to work for you to make it all happen - while saving you time and money! That's right, a good professional is likely to pay for him or herself by knowing where to shop and how to shop for many of those event items you need - and all of this is just for starters - the consultant does much more for you. Here is your source for the most current trends and for proper wedding etiquette.
Today's bride and groom are often busy professional people, working, attending school or both. Some of these individuals are second time brides that are professional people working and raising a family. Often the mothers and the best friends of these busy couples are also either working or live out of town. Hiring a consultant can be very beneficial for all concerned, by taking the pressure off everyone.
So - DO YOU NEED A CONSULTANT & (IF SO) HOW WOULD YOU CHOOSE THE RIGHT CONSULTANT?
Really it's a lot of common sense. Ask wedding professionals; look in wedding magazines (like this one), and the phone books; make appointments to visit with prospective consultants (the first appointment/interview better be free or you don't want them anyway.) Get a general feel for the person you think you will be happy with. REMEMBER, this individual is NOT doing you any favors, THEY are being interviewed by YOU - If you elect to hire this individual you could be spending a lot of time with this person. Make sure you ask for references, ask about their experiences, certification, years of experience, etc. If you are dealing with a certified wedding consultant you are likely dealing with an individual who has taken the time to study, learn and know their business. BY ALL MEANS ask to see their contracts and DON'T sign without carefully reviewing the contract (contracts, no matter how friendly they seem to be, mean legal obligations and legal obligations mean legal advice wouldn't hurt you prior to signing anything.)
Choosing The Right Wine For Your Wedding Reception
Choosing the right wine for your reception doesn't have to be scary. You don't have to be a wine expert to make good choices. A good tasting wine can elevate the food at your reception and it doesn't have to be as expensive as you might think.
I would estimate 95% of all receptions and rehearsal dinners that I have coordinated have only served wine, champagne, and beer. Hard liquor has typically been served on a cash basis. You will need to choose a red wine and a white wine. You will have some guests that prefer a sweet wine, like a white zinfandel, a blush colored wine. The blush wine should simply be the "house" blush, as these are all inexpensive and vary little as to quality.
For a white wine, I suggest tasting the restaurant's house white wine. They may have a good quality house wine that is generally reasonably priced. Trust your own taste and the tastes of your family and if the house win e is not great, move on to a wine list for your selection. The wines on the list may be divided by country of origin (France, California, Italy) or by the grape (Chardonnay, Sauvignon Blanc). I would suggest a Chardonnay over any other variety; as it is a great "food wine". Good Chardonnay should be dry yet have a round, fruity finish. Some of the best Chardonnay in the world are grown in California, and you can find some real bargains in the unknown labels or "boutique wines". Spend some time tasting wine from a grocery or liquor store to discover what qualities of wine you like and what labels your prefer.
Most restaurants will allow you to request a certain wine that is not on their list and they will quote you a price based on what they pay for it. Just because you pay ten dollars for a wine at the store doesn't mean you can pay a restaurant fifteen dollars. You cam estimate that a ten dollar bottle of wine from the store will generally cost thirty dollars in a fine restaurant. Restaurants have to pay a 14.5% tax to the Texas Alcoholic Beverage Commission for every bottle of wine they sell, and they try to keep the cost percentage at 25%.
My personal recommendations for American Chardonnay in the $20-$30 range are: La Crema, Cambria, Callaway, Mirassou, Columbia Crest, Rodney Strong, Chateau St. Michelle, Vichon, Hill, and J. Lohr.
If you are looking for something expensive, pick up a copy of "The Wine Spectator" and look up the ratings on labels that you know or are interested in. Just remember a wine is not judged solely on price. With some wines you are paying for a well known label and others are less expensive because they are not as widely distributed.
When selecting the red wine, I suggest going with either a Cabernet or a Merlot. These names refer to the name of the grape. Cabernet has been described as a rich, full bodied wine with hints of oak, cherry and berries. Merlot is a soft more mellow wine that has a great mass appeal, as its characteristics are not so blatant. Again, the first place to look for great Cabernets or Merlots is on the U.S.A. These two grapes are grown all over California, Washington State and Texas. Some of my favorites within this same price range are: Liberty School, Kenwood, Guenoc, Franciscan, Alexander Valley, B.V., Velverdere, Clos du Bois, Gundlach Bundschu, William Hill and Joseph Phelps.
Don't forget Texas wineries when you are tasting and selecting. There are some fine wines that are winning medals at international competitions and they are generally less expensive than California wines. Though most of the good wines come from Texas hill country a few good wines are being made right in Grapevine.
Finally, one note of caution when dealing with restaurant managers or catering directors...you will almost never be able to bring your own wine to the reception or rehearsal dinner. The T.A.B.C. permit that most restaurants carry, restricts them from allowing guests to bring alcohol of any kind into the establishment. Some restaurants may let you, but will charge you a "corkage fee" for the privilege. The restaurant is generally braking the law by doing his, yet some have a special package license which allows them to do so.
I would estimate 95% of all receptions and rehearsal dinners that I have coordinated have only served wine, champagne, and beer. Hard liquor has typically been served on a cash basis. You will need to choose a red wine and a white wine. You will have some guests that prefer a sweet wine, like a white zinfandel, a blush colored wine. The blush wine should simply be the "house" blush, as these are all inexpensive and vary little as to quality.
For a white wine, I suggest tasting the restaurant's house white wine. They may have a good quality house wine that is generally reasonably priced. Trust your own taste and the tastes of your family and if the house win e is not great, move on to a wine list for your selection. The wines on the list may be divided by country of origin (France, California, Italy) or by the grape (Chardonnay, Sauvignon Blanc). I would suggest a Chardonnay over any other variety; as it is a great "food wine". Good Chardonnay should be dry yet have a round, fruity finish. Some of the best Chardonnay in the world are grown in California, and you can find some real bargains in the unknown labels or "boutique wines". Spend some time tasting wine from a grocery or liquor store to discover what qualities of wine you like and what labels your prefer.
Most restaurants will allow you to request a certain wine that is not on their list and they will quote you a price based on what they pay for it. Just because you pay ten dollars for a wine at the store doesn't mean you can pay a restaurant fifteen dollars. You cam estimate that a ten dollar bottle of wine from the store will generally cost thirty dollars in a fine restaurant. Restaurants have to pay a 14.5% tax to the Texas Alcoholic Beverage Commission for every bottle of wine they sell, and they try to keep the cost percentage at 25%.
My personal recommendations for American Chardonnay in the $20-$30 range are: La Crema, Cambria, Callaway, Mirassou, Columbia Crest, Rodney Strong, Chateau St. Michelle, Vichon, Hill, and J. Lohr.
If you are looking for something expensive, pick up a copy of "The Wine Spectator" and look up the ratings on labels that you know or are interested in. Just remember a wine is not judged solely on price. With some wines you are paying for a well known label and others are less expensive because they are not as widely distributed.
When selecting the red wine, I suggest going with either a Cabernet or a Merlot. These names refer to the name of the grape. Cabernet has been described as a rich, full bodied wine with hints of oak, cherry and berries. Merlot is a soft more mellow wine that has a great mass appeal, as its characteristics are not so blatant. Again, the first place to look for great Cabernets or Merlots is on the U.S.A. These two grapes are grown all over California, Washington State and Texas. Some of my favorites within this same price range are: Liberty School, Kenwood, Guenoc, Franciscan, Alexander Valley, B.V., Velverdere, Clos du Bois, Gundlach Bundschu, William Hill and Joseph Phelps.
Don't forget Texas wineries when you are tasting and selecting. There are some fine wines that are winning medals at international competitions and they are generally less expensive than California wines. Though most of the good wines come from Texas hill country a few good wines are being made right in Grapevine.
Finally, one note of caution when dealing with restaurant managers or catering directors...you will almost never be able to bring your own wine to the reception or rehearsal dinner. The T.A.B.C. permit that most restaurants carry, restricts them from allowing guests to bring alcohol of any kind into the establishment. Some restaurants may let you, but will charge you a "corkage fee" for the privilege. The restaurant is generally braking the law by doing his, yet some have a special package license which allows them to do so.
You Can Plan Elegant Stylish Wedding Within Any Budget.
Have you ever been to an all out social shindig, a gala event (or perhaps even a wedding reception) where you just knew that the host and hostess (or perhaps father and bride?) must have just found buried treasure - or won the lottery - or struck oil in their backyard - or broke into Fort Knox - or something - to pay for it all?
Not only did they have the finest wines and champagne but the tea for the iced tea was imported from India - the cake just arrived from Paris - and (of course) the menu was created by a very well known chef from a very well known mansion on a very well known creek somewhere in Texas!
Well I guess money sure doesn't hurt (and probably does help a bit) - BUT - don't you dare try to equate money with Elegance and Style - don't you dare!
Of course our fictitious "event" was obviously pretty nice. You most likely didn't have too many plastic flowers and paper plates and Uncle Hunkus probably didn't drink too much and (sans Auntie Doras) didn't fall down on the dance floor during his self-requested solo demonstration of the "Twist".
OK , so one person's trash may be another's treasure, and the concepts of elegance and Style are definitely subjective, with a broad range of interpretations, yet...
We know a couple who, with only a dozen or so friends and family arranged for their vows to be exchanged in a small (yet very attractive) inner courtyard & flower garden of a church. following this simple ceremony the couple took everyone (including the minister and his wife) to a very nice restaurant for brunch in a private room. Simple, Elegant, Stylish and not terribly expensive either.
For most of us our wedding event will fall somewhere between a Daddy Warbucks gala event and the very intimate and small affair just noted. The nice thing is that without exception you can make your wedding day an elegant, stylish event you will remember for the rest of your life.
Good planning and a little foresight can make up for having limited funds. You can usually plan an elegant stylish wedding within any budget.
Elegance and Style have no limits and no price tag.
Before you start getting too deep into your wedding plans make sure you have taken the time to speak with as many wedding professionals as possible (not only is advise cheap, in this instance it's usually free!). You may want someone else to handle the nitty-gritty details of the wedding (a very time consuming and not necessarily fun task) and by linking up with a wedding professional you won't overlook anything; you will know in advance what your cost will be; and, you can be assured that your special day will have the Elegance and Style you will cherish for years to come.
Elegance and style have no limits. If you want a Texas-styled cowboy wedding - a hot air balloon wedding - GREAT - especially when they are done with a little bit of Elegance and a lot of Style!
All of this on budget you can set up in advance and (most importantly) live with once you (or yours) are married.
Not only did they have the finest wines and champagne but the tea for the iced tea was imported from India - the cake just arrived from Paris - and (of course) the menu was created by a very well known chef from a very well known mansion on a very well known creek somewhere in Texas!
Well I guess money sure doesn't hurt (and probably does help a bit) - BUT - don't you dare try to equate money with Elegance and Style - don't you dare!
Of course our fictitious "event" was obviously pretty nice. You most likely didn't have too many plastic flowers and paper plates and Uncle Hunkus probably didn't drink too much and (sans Auntie Doras) didn't fall down on the dance floor during his self-requested solo demonstration of the "Twist".
OK , so one person's trash may be another's treasure, and the concepts of elegance and Style are definitely subjective, with a broad range of interpretations, yet...
We know a couple who, with only a dozen or so friends and family arranged for their vows to be exchanged in a small (yet very attractive) inner courtyard & flower garden of a church. following this simple ceremony the couple took everyone (including the minister and his wife) to a very nice restaurant for brunch in a private room. Simple, Elegant, Stylish and not terribly expensive either.
For most of us our wedding event will fall somewhere between a Daddy Warbucks gala event and the very intimate and small affair just noted. The nice thing is that without exception you can make your wedding day an elegant, stylish event you will remember for the rest of your life.
Good planning and a little foresight can make up for having limited funds. You can usually plan an elegant stylish wedding within any budget.
Elegance and Style have no limits and no price tag.
Before you start getting too deep into your wedding plans make sure you have taken the time to speak with as many wedding professionals as possible (not only is advise cheap, in this instance it's usually free!). You may want someone else to handle the nitty-gritty details of the wedding (a very time consuming and not necessarily fun task) and by linking up with a wedding professional you won't overlook anything; you will know in advance what your cost will be; and, you can be assured that your special day will have the Elegance and Style you will cherish for years to come.
Elegance and style have no limits. If you want a Texas-styled cowboy wedding - a hot air balloon wedding - GREAT - especially when they are done with a little bit of Elegance and a lot of Style!
All of this on budget you can set up in advance and (most importantly) live with once you (or yours) are married.
Outdoor Wedding: Tips For Those Considering To Test Mother Nature
It seems like a beautiful day - a day to end all days and a day to begin the rest of your life. This is a beautiful day to have an outdoor wedding. After all, the birds chirping is accompanied by the wind softly rustling in the trees - and as the wind blows softly against your gown, the sweet aromatic smell of roses fills the air.
Ah, love is in the air - and so are the bugs! - and a 20% chance of showers; which may not be too bad because the local weather says it could reach 100 degrees this afternoon - are you getting the idea?
Before going too far in planning an outdoor event (especially "the" event) you probably should consider a few of the possible pitfalls of outdooring it; once you have a handle on these potential problems and possible difficulties, and you still believe you want an outdoor wedding, we'll give you some creative practical tips and decorative hints to help you get it all done with as little difficulty as possible.
Let's start with a little common sense and a lot of out-of-sight-out-of-mind potential problems (see if you can find a few common threads here):
OK, enough about the joys of outdooring it. I have to assume if you are still reading, you are still looking at the outdoor wedding - sooo - let's see if we can help.
It is always a good idea when planning a wedding and reception to pick a location that has both indoor and outdoor facilities. That way, if needed, the party can be moved indoors. If the indoor/outdoor scenario is difficult to find or budget for then a party tent may be a must.
A tent can be a fun and decorative idea but may also be a costly one as well. Tents come in various sizes and styles and can include dance floors, heating and air conditioning, and more. Another added expense to a tent is running the electricity (and an extension cord from the house is NOT what I mean by electricity). Remember, besides the need for possible air conditioning you will need lots of power for lighting, sound systems, et al.
CAUTION - don't pick out your wedding dress until after you are sure you are doing the outdoor wedding. Why? you probably wouldn't be very comfortable in a long sleeve, high neck cathedral gown in the middle of August in the middle of your yard (or anybody's yard for that matter). You should opt for a gown that breathes (so you can breathe too) and will allow you to be comfortable.
Once you are properly decorated here are some decorating ideas for your outdoor wedding.
Ah, love is in the air - and so are the bugs! - and a 20% chance of showers; which may not be too bad because the local weather says it could reach 100 degrees this afternoon - are you getting the idea?
Before going too far in planning an outdoor event (especially "the" event) you probably should consider a few of the possible pitfalls of outdooring it; once you have a handle on these potential problems and possible difficulties, and you still believe you want an outdoor wedding, we'll give you some creative practical tips and decorative hints to help you get it all done with as little difficulty as possible.
Let's start with a little common sense and a lot of out-of-sight-out-of-mind potential problems (see if you can find a few common threads here):
- Weather (a): Is it usually very windy this time of year? Spending your ceremony brushing hair out of your face is not going to be one of your wedding day highlights!
- Weather (b): What do you think the chances of rain will be? Think of the sweet smell of rain - and wet clothes. Think of how you and your guests would look soaking wet? Think of the TITANIC!
- Weather (c): What about a few other things like temperature and humidity?
- Pollen count? Now if you are one of those rare people who doesn't have allergies you have NO idea of what the phrase "pollen count" really means but for the bride who is prone to allergies (which often includes grasses) a high pollen count could mean sniffles upon sniffles upon hacking cough and bloodshot eyes and ... well, hopefully you get the picture because you won't want to be in any pictures if pollens drive you nuts! Without seeming just too, too maudlin just a couple of other potential problem areas need to be addressed:
- Is there any construction going on in your neighborhood? Do they work on the day of your wedding? Is it noisy work? Is it dusty work (as in "blowing in the wind")?
- Are there roads nearby? Not just streets in a quiet neighborhood but ROADS, like highways, busy places, places where many cars and trucks make plenty of noise?
OK, enough about the joys of outdooring it. I have to assume if you are still reading, you are still looking at the outdoor wedding - sooo - let's see if we can help.
It is always a good idea when planning a wedding and reception to pick a location that has both indoor and outdoor facilities. That way, if needed, the party can be moved indoors. If the indoor/outdoor scenario is difficult to find or budget for then a party tent may be a must.
A tent can be a fun and decorative idea but may also be a costly one as well. Tents come in various sizes and styles and can include dance floors, heating and air conditioning, and more. Another added expense to a tent is running the electricity (and an extension cord from the house is NOT what I mean by electricity). Remember, besides the need for possible air conditioning you will need lots of power for lighting, sound systems, et al.
CAUTION - don't pick out your wedding dress until after you are sure you are doing the outdoor wedding. Why? you probably wouldn't be very comfortable in a long sleeve, high neck cathedral gown in the middle of August in the middle of your yard (or anybody's yard for that matter). You should opt for a gown that breathes (so you can breathe too) and will allow you to be comfortable.
Once you are properly decorated here are some decorating ideas for your outdoor wedding.
- Think timing when you plan outdooring it. If you plan to marry during a warm time of the year be sure to remember the hottest part of the day is late in the afternoon. You may want to start early (late morning) or start late (early evening) and try to avoid the worst of the heat.
- If you know it's going to be very hot and/or if you believe you could have a few light sprinkles think about renting a gazebo for the ceremony and using inexpensive but attractive, and easily manageable, "fly tents" (those tents that have only a top and no sides) for your guests watching the ceremony. If you have the space, a combination of gazebo(s), fly tent(s) and a large "reception" tent can make for a spectacular event.
- The sweet smell of citronella candles can add a romantic effect to your surroundings while also keeping bugs off of you and your guests.
- Want a celestial glow? - then torches may be for you. Kerosene lamps are also very effective. Strategically placed around the property (NOT inside or under a tent) they can add a bright and elegant touch to your wedding and reception.
- While certain flowers may not be in bloom when your wedding is planned, today flowers are imported or grown in hot houses throughout the world and are usually in abundance. However - be prepared. Just in case you don't get exactly what you expect or you don't get exactly as many as you anticipated or whatever - plan to add some silks. Wrapping garlands around the stems of your torches, tent poles, etc. adds a festive touch. Flowers should be a lot of fun - and remember - there really is no such thing as too many flowers!
- Don't forget the guests! Be sure EVERYONE understands this is an OUTDOOR event and they dress accordingly ... having your great great aunt Hildi pass out during the ceremony due to the heat is another one of those "wedding highlights" you can probably do without.
- Be sure that the professionals you select to work with have "outdoor" experience. Photographers need to have a good background in working in natural light, under trees, around shadows, etc. Caterers need to provide foods and food displays that keep well under warm conditions.
How To Avoid The Most Common Wedding Disasters
First and foremost - from the very beginning - BE UP FRONT - Get in writing who pays for what and by what date; and this includes, not only the family but the attendants. This will lessen the chance of confusion, misunderstandings and hard feelings when it gets closer to the wedding date. This will also lessen your task of keeping up with making sure things are paid for on time.
Use a "service provider questionnaire" to make sure you ask all the right questions and get all the right answers you need.
Feeling confident that everything will be delivered and on time, takes a great deal of worry off your shoulders and cuts down on potential disasters. GET EVERYTHING IN WRITING!
Read every word of your contracts and your wedding and ceremony location restrictions and requirements. If you make sure you are following any restrictions from the beginning you won't have any last minute surprises that can shock you and delay your wedding.
If at all possible get a wedding coordinator, so they can handle everything and you and your family can just enjoy the moments of your wedding day.
Pack an emergency kit - floral wire, pins, thread to match the dresses and tuxedos, needles, tape, glue, extra writing pens for the guest book table, feminine supplies, extra hose, lotion, makeup, tooth brush and paste, hair combs, bobby pins, nail polish, headache medicine, breath mints, umbrella and a real first aid kit. You really NEVER KNOW what will come up.
Make a checklist for everyone in the wedding. Most commonly forgotten items are the rings, tie and cummerbunds, ring pillows, garters, guest books and pens, and bridesmaids' shoes. Give a written schedule of events and times to your musicians and/or DJ. Make sure you have specific duties assigned to people who are not in your wedding party. Be sure someone has all the service providers and wedding party's names and phone numbers and when they are supposed to arrive. You just can't keep track of everything yourself.
Have someone assigned to get up and straighten anything that is out of place or falls (link candelabras, candles, flower arrangements.)
Someone should be selected to take care of the gifts that may be brought to the wedding or reception - plus take care of the guest book and other accessories.
To take the bride's and bridesmaid's bags to the reception.
Someone to care for left over food and cake, and delivering the flowers from the reception to the newlywed's home or other selected destination.
Remember, if you DO have a disaster you should stay calm and IGNORE it! If you don't get upset your guests and wedding party won't either. No one may even notice if you don't bring attention to it. In the end - no matter what - you will still be married!
Use a "service provider questionnaire" to make sure you ask all the right questions and get all the right answers you need.
Feeling confident that everything will be delivered and on time, takes a great deal of worry off your shoulders and cuts down on potential disasters. GET EVERYTHING IN WRITING!
Read every word of your contracts and your wedding and ceremony location restrictions and requirements. If you make sure you are following any restrictions from the beginning you won't have any last minute surprises that can shock you and delay your wedding.
If at all possible get a wedding coordinator, so they can handle everything and you and your family can just enjoy the moments of your wedding day.
Pack an emergency kit - floral wire, pins, thread to match the dresses and tuxedos, needles, tape, glue, extra writing pens for the guest book table, feminine supplies, extra hose, lotion, makeup, tooth brush and paste, hair combs, bobby pins, nail polish, headache medicine, breath mints, umbrella and a real first aid kit. You really NEVER KNOW what will come up.
Make a checklist for everyone in the wedding. Most commonly forgotten items are the rings, tie and cummerbunds, ring pillows, garters, guest books and pens, and bridesmaids' shoes. Give a written schedule of events and times to your musicians and/or DJ. Make sure you have specific duties assigned to people who are not in your wedding party. Be sure someone has all the service providers and wedding party's names and phone numbers and when they are supposed to arrive. You just can't keep track of everything yourself.
Have someone assigned to get up and straighten anything that is out of place or falls (link candelabras, candles, flower arrangements.)
Someone should be selected to take care of the gifts that may be brought to the wedding or reception - plus take care of the guest book and other accessories.
To take the bride's and bridesmaid's bags to the reception.
Someone to care for left over food and cake, and delivering the flowers from the reception to the newlywed's home or other selected destination.
Remember, if you DO have a disaster you should stay calm and IGNORE it! If you don't get upset your guests and wedding party won't either. No one may even notice if you don't bring attention to it. In the end - no matter what - you will still be married!
Preserving Your Bridal Bouquet
Preserving every detail of your wedding is just as important as planning it. You've spent a lot of time, thought and, undoubtedly money, selecting the perfect flowers for your wedding. So why discard your bouquet after just hours of enjoyment.
Now, thanks to a high tech freeze dried method you can preserve your bouquet to enjoy for years to come. Compared to the traditional methods of air drying, silica gel and pressing, freeze dried flowers are full size smooth and colorful.
These beautifully preserved bouquets can be artistically arranged into display containers along with your garter, picture, invitation and/or other sentimental treasures, to protect them from the elements. You could also opt to have your bouquet transformed into a topiary, a wreath or a centerpiece.
Whatever your choice of displaying your bridal flowers might be, make sure you remember to get your flowers to your preservation specialist as soon after the wedding as possible. The fresher the flowers the prettier they freeze dry.
It's a good idea to plan ahead and to give one of your best friends the responsibility to take your bouquet from you at the end of the wedding and to get it to your choice of preservationist as soon as possible.
Be sure that you interview your preservation specialist before the wedding. This allows you to not only see examples of the work to be done but also to discuss what type of flowers are in your bouquet, color changes and what to do with the bouquet until it is dropped off.
Ask some straight forward questions (remember this is your bouquet and your money) like how many years has the specialist been in business, are color enhancers used, and what about post treatments for durability.
Freeze drying is a remarkable process but it takes extensive training and experience to learn the art of bridal bouquet preservation.
Creating a keepsake with your bridal flowers is very much like creating a piece of custom artwork for your home. Just as you preserve your wedding gown and have video and photographs taken to preserve your special day, be sure to remember that final detail - and preserve your bridal flowers.
Now, thanks to a high tech freeze dried method you can preserve your bouquet to enjoy for years to come. Compared to the traditional methods of air drying, silica gel and pressing, freeze dried flowers are full size smooth and colorful.
These beautifully preserved bouquets can be artistically arranged into display containers along with your garter, picture, invitation and/or other sentimental treasures, to protect them from the elements. You could also opt to have your bouquet transformed into a topiary, a wreath or a centerpiece.
Whatever your choice of displaying your bridal flowers might be, make sure you remember to get your flowers to your preservation specialist as soon after the wedding as possible. The fresher the flowers the prettier they freeze dry.
It's a good idea to plan ahead and to give one of your best friends the responsibility to take your bouquet from you at the end of the wedding and to get it to your choice of preservationist as soon as possible.
Be sure that you interview your preservation specialist before the wedding. This allows you to not only see examples of the work to be done but also to discuss what type of flowers are in your bouquet, color changes and what to do with the bouquet until it is dropped off.
Ask some straight forward questions (remember this is your bouquet and your money) like how many years has the specialist been in business, are color enhancers used, and what about post treatments for durability.
Freeze drying is a remarkable process but it takes extensive training and experience to learn the art of bridal bouquet preservation.
Creating a keepsake with your bridal flowers is very much like creating a piece of custom artwork for your home. Just as you preserve your wedding gown and have video and photographs taken to preserve your special day, be sure to remember that final detail - and preserve your bridal flowers.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Bridal Shower Ideas: Round-the-Clock, Kitchen, Gourmet, Handyman, Thanks-for-the-Memories, Lingerie
Round-the-Clock Shower: On the invitation, guests are assigned an hour of the day (ex: 9:00am) and challenged to bring a gift appropriate to that hour (ex: coffee maker, alarm clock).
Kitchen Shower: All the household staples are welcome – gadgets, dish towels, spice rack, canisters, trivets, cookware. Party favors might include a wooden spoon or refrigerator magnets.
Entertainment Shower: Guests bring gifts for hobbies and entertainment, including theater, movie, or sports tickets,; videos or sporting equipment. Guests can also pool their resources for a big gift like a camcorder, barbeque or television.
Gourmet Shower: Do the bride and groom love to cook and entertain? Gather for a fabulous special meal and bring gift certificates for fine dining, cookbooks, a subscription to a cooking magazine, kitchen gadgets, china, glassware, espresso maker, or a gift certificate to a cooking course.
Handyman Shower: Get ready to work! At this service shower bring a hammer, nails, buckets of paint, and whatever is needed to spruce up the couple’s house or apartment. Gifts might include tools, materials, a gift certificate to a hardware store, or the services of a professional painter, plumber, electrician or craftsman.
Bar Shower: Here’s the chance to stock the couple’s bar with glassware, tongs, ice bucket, corkscrew, napkins with silly messages, wine rack, fine wines or boutique beers.
Thanks-for-the-Memories Shower: A great party for close friends and family of the bride. Everyone is asked to bring old photographs of the bride from her childhood or teenage years and to write a poem or letter to her recalling the happy times they’ve spent together and good wishes for the future. As each guest shares a memory, the letters and photographs are placed in an heirloom scrapbook for the bride to keep.
Lingerie Shower: Pajamas, nightgowns, slippers, down pillows, bed linens, robe, bath bubbles, fragrances, slips, teddies, or any kind of lingerie or related items!
Holiday Shower: Homemade Christmas decorations and holiday stockings; red, white and blue linens and glassware or barbecue utensils for the Fourth of July; decorated paper mache eggs and moss-covered wreaths for Easter, confetti, candles and paper hats for New Year’s Eve. The bride will end up with a year’s worth of household decorations
Gardening Shower: If the couple enjoys gardening, then gifts relating to the garden are perfect. Items range from tools to decorative accessories to plants and flowers.
Room of the House Shower: Assign each guest a room of the house. They will then bring a gift that is appropriate for that room.
Kitchen Shower: All the household staples are welcome – gadgets, dish towels, spice rack, canisters, trivets, cookware. Party favors might include a wooden spoon or refrigerator magnets.
Entertainment Shower: Guests bring gifts for hobbies and entertainment, including theater, movie, or sports tickets,; videos or sporting equipment. Guests can also pool their resources for a big gift like a camcorder, barbeque or television.
Gourmet Shower: Do the bride and groom love to cook and entertain? Gather for a fabulous special meal and bring gift certificates for fine dining, cookbooks, a subscription to a cooking magazine, kitchen gadgets, china, glassware, espresso maker, or a gift certificate to a cooking course.
Handyman Shower: Get ready to work! At this service shower bring a hammer, nails, buckets of paint, and whatever is needed to spruce up the couple’s house or apartment. Gifts might include tools, materials, a gift certificate to a hardware store, or the services of a professional painter, plumber, electrician or craftsman.
Bar Shower: Here’s the chance to stock the couple’s bar with glassware, tongs, ice bucket, corkscrew, napkins with silly messages, wine rack, fine wines or boutique beers.
Thanks-for-the-Memories Shower: A great party for close friends and family of the bride. Everyone is asked to bring old photographs of the bride from her childhood or teenage years and to write a poem or letter to her recalling the happy times they’ve spent together and good wishes for the future. As each guest shares a memory, the letters and photographs are placed in an heirloom scrapbook for the bride to keep.
Lingerie Shower: Pajamas, nightgowns, slippers, down pillows, bed linens, robe, bath bubbles, fragrances, slips, teddies, or any kind of lingerie or related items!
Holiday Shower: Homemade Christmas decorations and holiday stockings; red, white and blue linens and glassware or barbecue utensils for the Fourth of July; decorated paper mache eggs and moss-covered wreaths for Easter, confetti, candles and paper hats for New Year’s Eve. The bride will end up with a year’s worth of household decorations
Gardening Shower: If the couple enjoys gardening, then gifts relating to the garden are perfect. Items range from tools to decorative accessories to plants and flowers.
Room of the House Shower: Assign each guest a room of the house. They will then bring a gift that is appropriate for that room.
Hosting the Best Bachelor’s Party
Of the major areas of Best Man responsibility, this one is by far the most fun. You have the responsibility of organizing the party of the century, and making sure that the groom lives through to get married. This may seem a daunting task. However, the outline below should make this responsibility a bit easier.
This is not to say you won’t be having a great time. You will be having fun. And more importantly, you will get credit for planning the "greatest of all celebrations" after the party is done. Heck, New Orleans’s may be calling you to plan the next Mardi Gras.
Pre-party
The Date – Find a date and time the groom and all his friends can attend. This is easier said than done. Start early with a date and get it set in stone as soon as possible. Call to remind your participants frequently. Dropping little email or voice-mail messages from time to time has also proven useful.
The Event - This is it. What the heck are you going do? The one thing you are not going to do is settle for less than fantastic. Nothing is worse than the poorly thrown together party, that consists of the Best Man yelling out to the other office cubicles, "Hey everybody come down to Murry’s bar for Joe’s bachelor party! We’re going to get ripped!"
Even if the groom wants only wants hang out at his favorite bar, then find a way to make it better. Make it value added. One example might be to find a good place that will run a prepaid tab for your friends. (Prepay if possible, you don’t want your friends setting new drinking records and you getting stuck with the difference on the bill.) Have your pub set up a certain area of just for your party. And then make the groom wear a crown and robe. You can think of many different ways you can make this a memorable night.
The Money – you are planning a major event. Major events will probably cost major money. Fortunately, you have the rest of the groomsmen to help you. It is the responsibility of everyone attending the party (except the groom) to chip in to pay for the party.
Collecting money can be difficult! There are many people in the world that makes a pretty good living collecting money from people. We are not suggesting that you call your comrade’s everyday or kidnap a pet to collect ransom money. The best approach to collecting their portion of the money is to set a collection date in advance and what the amount will be. Don’t give your friends sticker shock. Go see them around the end or first of the month (i.e. payday).
The Guests – Ask the groom who he wants to attend the event. After all, this is a party to honor the groom. Do not, then, invite people the groom does not like or who he does not like being around. The question arises from time to time about inviting women to the bachelor party. We recommend considering the question of female guests carefully. One situation that can arise is bridal jealousy. In the bride’s eyes, the groom is having a coed party that she was not invited to attend. Not a good way to start off a marriage.
We are not saying you cannot invite women. The final say-so comes from the groom anyway. We do suggest that a bachelor party have a completely different atmosphere when it’s "just the boys." Guys will have a greater comfort level, be able to relax and possibly have more fun. Remember, this is the bachelor party. Sometimes men gather at these events to be crude and nasty, and laugh about it later. If you need more reasons, read Robert Bly’s Iron John.
Transportation
First off, you should think limousine. They are classy, large enough to hold your party, and have a sober driver. They are a little pricey, but remember you are splitting the cost with your friends. Renting a van is another option. This option protects your cars and allows you all to ride together.
Accessories
The Best Man must have a few items with him for the party.
Warnings
We have a few warnings that go along with throwing a bachelor party.
Do not drive drunk. Not even a little buzzed. And do not let others in your party drive after drinking. Drinking and driving is illegal, dangerous, and stupid. You risk the lives of your friends, yourself, and even worse, innocent people on the road. E’nuff preaching.
Strippers - All great bachelor party must have strippers, right? Every great bachelor party movie has had naked women or some form or another. Let us take this opportunity to remind you that, as the Best Man, your responsibility is to make sure the groom gets married and support him during the wedding process. Strippers may just throw a kink in this process. We are not trying to be prudes here. A growing number of bachelor parties have no involvement of this type out of respect for the bride. Many people think bachelor party is for the "last score before marriage". It isn’t. It is a time for male bonding and support before entering marriage. Be sure to ask the groom and, even more importantly the bride, if you are going to involve naked women in the bachelor party. Everyone will be glad you asked rather than assumed.
Post-party
This is the moment you sit back think of your job well done, or call your wife for bail money…just kidding. Either way the party is probably over. If you have done your planning well then this should be the easiest part of the program. Stop and take a little assessment of your group. First, do you have the groom with you and is he safe? Second, has anyone wandered off with someone or otherwise left the event? Are they accounted for? Finally the rides home. It is still your responsibility to get everyone safely home. Hopefully, you have arranged a limousine, cab, or other form of sober, rented vehicle to take your guests home.
A bonus tip:
NOW HEAR THIS!!! Have flowers ready for the guys to take home to their significant others. Why? The truth is women (we are making a broad generalization here) don’t care for us to participate in bachelor parties. The media has always portrayed our parties as drunken orgies involving hookers, drugs, and most likely the police. Sometimes they are right. Quite frankly, we are not always at our most attractive during or after a bachelor party. Most of our wives and girlfriends would appreciate the flowers and think they have the greatest guy in the world. Most of our friends probably have not taken home flowers for a while anyway. It will do the boys some good.
In conclusion we say be safe, get the groom to the church (or wherever the wedding is) on time, and make sure the groom and bride agree with your plans. We think if you do the things we’ve outlined in this article you’ll be well on your way to hosting a wonderful bachelor party.
This is not to say you won’t be having a great time. You will be having fun. And more importantly, you will get credit for planning the "greatest of all celebrations" after the party is done. Heck, New Orleans’s may be calling you to plan the next Mardi Gras.
Pre-party
The Date – Find a date and time the groom and all his friends can attend. This is easier said than done. Start early with a date and get it set in stone as soon as possible. Call to remind your participants frequently. Dropping little email or voice-mail messages from time to time has also proven useful.
The Event - This is it. What the heck are you going do? The one thing you are not going to do is settle for less than fantastic. Nothing is worse than the poorly thrown together party, that consists of the Best Man yelling out to the other office cubicles, "Hey everybody come down to Murry’s bar for Joe’s bachelor party! We’re going to get ripped!"
Even if the groom wants only wants hang out at his favorite bar, then find a way to make it better. Make it value added. One example might be to find a good place that will run a prepaid tab for your friends. (Prepay if possible, you don’t want your friends setting new drinking records and you getting stuck with the difference on the bill.) Have your pub set up a certain area of just for your party. And then make the groom wear a crown and robe. You can think of many different ways you can make this a memorable night.
The Money – you are planning a major event. Major events will probably cost major money. Fortunately, you have the rest of the groomsmen to help you. It is the responsibility of everyone attending the party (except the groom) to chip in to pay for the party.
Collecting money can be difficult! There are many people in the world that makes a pretty good living collecting money from people. We are not suggesting that you call your comrade’s everyday or kidnap a pet to collect ransom money. The best approach to collecting their portion of the money is to set a collection date in advance and what the amount will be. Don’t give your friends sticker shock. Go see them around the end or first of the month (i.e. payday).
The Guests – Ask the groom who he wants to attend the event. After all, this is a party to honor the groom. Do not, then, invite people the groom does not like or who he does not like being around. The question arises from time to time about inviting women to the bachelor party. We recommend considering the question of female guests carefully. One situation that can arise is bridal jealousy. In the bride’s eyes, the groom is having a coed party that she was not invited to attend. Not a good way to start off a marriage.
We are not saying you cannot invite women. The final say-so comes from the groom anyway. We do suggest that a bachelor party have a completely different atmosphere when it’s "just the boys." Guys will have a greater comfort level, be able to relax and possibly have more fun. Remember, this is the bachelor party. Sometimes men gather at these events to be crude and nasty, and laugh about it later. If you need more reasons, read Robert Bly’s Iron John.
Transportation
First off, you should think limousine. They are classy, large enough to hold your party, and have a sober driver. They are a little pricey, but remember you are splitting the cost with your friends. Renting a van is another option. This option protects your cars and allows you all to ride together.
Accessories
The Best Man must have a few items with him for the party.
- Mints
- Cab numbers
- Cell Phone
- Friend’s home phone numbers
- Plenty of tipping cash (bartender, limousine driver, unexpected emergencies or gratuities.)
Warnings
We have a few warnings that go along with throwing a bachelor party.
Do not drive drunk. Not even a little buzzed. And do not let others in your party drive after drinking. Drinking and driving is illegal, dangerous, and stupid. You risk the lives of your friends, yourself, and even worse, innocent people on the road. E’nuff preaching.
Strippers - All great bachelor party must have strippers, right? Every great bachelor party movie has had naked women or some form or another. Let us take this opportunity to remind you that, as the Best Man, your responsibility is to make sure the groom gets married and support him during the wedding process. Strippers may just throw a kink in this process. We are not trying to be prudes here. A growing number of bachelor parties have no involvement of this type out of respect for the bride. Many people think bachelor party is for the "last score before marriage". It isn’t. It is a time for male bonding and support before entering marriage. Be sure to ask the groom and, even more importantly the bride, if you are going to involve naked women in the bachelor party. Everyone will be glad you asked rather than assumed.
Post-party
This is the moment you sit back think of your job well done, or call your wife for bail money…just kidding. Either way the party is probably over. If you have done your planning well then this should be the easiest part of the program. Stop and take a little assessment of your group. First, do you have the groom with you and is he safe? Second, has anyone wandered off with someone or otherwise left the event? Are they accounted for? Finally the rides home. It is still your responsibility to get everyone safely home. Hopefully, you have arranged a limousine, cab, or other form of sober, rented vehicle to take your guests home.
A bonus tip:
NOW HEAR THIS!!! Have flowers ready for the guys to take home to their significant others. Why? The truth is women (we are making a broad generalization here) don’t care for us to participate in bachelor parties. The media has always portrayed our parties as drunken orgies involving hookers, drugs, and most likely the police. Sometimes they are right. Quite frankly, we are not always at our most attractive during or after a bachelor party. Most of our wives and girlfriends would appreciate the flowers and think they have the greatest guy in the world. Most of our friends probably have not taken home flowers for a while anyway. It will do the boys some good.
In conclusion we say be safe, get the groom to the church (or wherever the wedding is) on time, and make sure the groom and bride agree with your plans. We think if you do the things we’ve outlined in this article you’ll be well on your way to hosting a wonderful bachelor party.
Honeymoon in London, England
If you happen to be one of those people who can do without the sun and surf - which many newlyweds believe is obligatory for their honeymoon - then you may be one of those people who would like to do something a little different - but not too different.
At first glance London may appear to be too far, too different and too costly. The fact is that London isn't much further than Hawaii, and, while different, it isn't that different - at least we speak the same language - or at least something close to the same language - and the cost of a London honeymoon is comparable to a honeymoon in Hawaii - just with a different accent and a bit cooler.
If names like Tower Bridge (shown above), the Tower of London, Westminster Abbey, Big Ben, Trafalgar Square, Piccadilly Circus, Bond Street, Hyde Park, Green Park, The Tate Gallery, The National Gallery, The British Museum, The Horse Guards, Buckingham Palace, The Changing of the Guards - if you like theater (theater that easily rivals New York's best) - and if you like food - meals that may include anything from a simple pub dinner or almost any of the American fast food chains, to Greek, Italian, Chinese, Indian (et al) or traditional British Fare - even a hamburger at the original Hard Rock Cafe on Piccadilly - if any of these seem interesting, romantic or just fun, you may want to look into a week to ten days in and around London.
London itself can easily occupy you for a week but that's just for starters because beyond London - and all easy one day outings - you have Windsor (here you find another one of the royal family's estates "Windsor Castle"), Stratford-on-Avon (Shakespeare), Bath (The Roman Baths, the Crescent, and close by Stonehenge) and dozens of other historic and fun destinations.
London can be almost anything and everything you look for when traveling. While the months of May through September are the busiest time of the year, any time is a good time to visit London. One advantage of skipping the high season is being able to also skip longer lines and being able to get excellent seats to almost any top hit play you may want to see.
Another great advantage to honeymooning in or around London is that the "natives" are friendly and, should they learn you are from Texas, they are often down-right hospitable too. As a matter of fact, should you decide to "venture across the pond", make a point of getting at least a dozen copies of Texas (that very big and beautiful publication available free from the Texas Department of Tourism) which presents one of the best show & tells you can possibly get -and give. These magazines accomplish a lot more than just good will. Because the magazine is so large and so heavy, the room they take up on the outbound trip is room available for your purchased gifts and souvenirs on the return trip!
Getting to London is as easy as going to DFW airport. A number of airlines fly non-stop from DFW into and out of one of two London airports; Gatwick or Heathrow. Once there, getting around is almost as easy as getting there. You have the Underground (also known as the Tube) that can take you nearly anywhere in London proper - plus to and from Heathrow Airport; you have a great railroad system (Britrail) that can take you nearly anywhere you want to go outside of London - including to and from Gatwick Airport; and you have London's renowned double decker buses and famous cabs - two people can share a London cab and go all over the city for about the same cost as taking the Tube. One very decided advantage to using a cab is that you get to see more and most taxi drivers will be more than happy to give you a running commentary of the sights, the history and local color as you drive by.
London is a city to be strolled. In Fort Worth we may stroll Sundance Square or The Stockyards. In Dallas we may stroll the West End and McKinney Avenue. In London you can stroll nearly the entire city: walk along the Mall from Nelson's Column in Trafalgar Square to Buckingham Palace.
You can stroll Piccadilly on a weekend from Park Lane (past The Hard Rock Cafe) to Piccadilly Circus while browsing the artists' wares that are hung on the fence along Green Park. You can stroll from Trafalgar to the Houses of Parliament passing the Horse Guards' Barracks, Downing Street (the Prime Minister's official residence is within shouting distance) to Parliament Square with Big Ben on your left and the exquisite Westminster Abbey just ahead of you and across the square to your right. You can stroll along the Embankment (Thames River); stroll Covent Garden (no longer a flower market but dozens of shops, pubs and eateries); stroll through "The City" (this is older London with St. Paul's Cathedral, historic pubs - like Ye Ole Cheshire Cheese - and for an astounding sense of history, visit The Tower of London (built nearly 500 years before Columbus set sail for America).
Then you have those places where you go to stroll-and-look: The British Museum is worth at least 1/2 a day to stroll-and-look. Then if you have any interest in art you have (at least) the National Gallery and the Tate Gallery. If you are a history and museum buff next stop could be the Victoria and Albert Museum or - if you are not - how about the original Madame Tussaud's Wax Museum (and don't overlook the Planetarium show while you are there). Of course you will want to stroll-and-look as well as stroll-and-look-and-spend through some of the great stores like Selfridges and Harrod's (while at Harrod's don't miss the side street named Beauchamp Place - pronounced Beachum - for additional shopping and some good restaurants). But, don't let all that strolling and looking and shopping make you too tired because evening in London means Theatre (comedy, musicals, mysteries, British farce or Shakespeare) and/or some great dining experiences and/or anything from cabarets to casinos or just stop at a local pub to "chat up" the locals.
Accommodations in London range from quaint bed and breakfasts (by the hundreds) to 5-star deluxe hotels (by the hundreds). You are likely to find a package tour that is your best buy and is not what you think of as a real "tour" - you would get your roundtrip air, the hotel and maybe a travel pass - and you can save big time!!! Theatre tickets, rail passes, day excursions and the like can also be purchased here, in the U.S. before you go.
London is a destination well worth looking into for your honeymoon. Check with a travel agent who specializes in honeymoons and has first hand knowledge of London (they charge no fee) and get some good detailed information. A honeymoon specialist should have great London knowledge.
At first glance London may appear to be too far, too different and too costly. The fact is that London isn't much further than Hawaii, and, while different, it isn't that different - at least we speak the same language - or at least something close to the same language - and the cost of a London honeymoon is comparable to a honeymoon in Hawaii - just with a different accent and a bit cooler.If names like Tower Bridge (shown above), the Tower of London, Westminster Abbey, Big Ben, Trafalgar Square, Piccadilly Circus, Bond Street, Hyde Park, Green Park, The Tate Gallery, The National Gallery, The British Museum, The Horse Guards, Buckingham Palace, The Changing of the Guards - if you like theater (theater that easily rivals New York's best) - and if you like food - meals that may include anything from a simple pub dinner or almost any of the American fast food chains, to Greek, Italian, Chinese, Indian (et al) or traditional British Fare - even a hamburger at the original Hard Rock Cafe on Piccadilly - if any of these seem interesting, romantic or just fun, you may want to look into a week to ten days in and around London.
London itself can easily occupy you for a week but that's just for starters because beyond London - and all easy one day outings - you have Windsor (here you find another one of the royal family's estates "Windsor Castle"), Stratford-on-Avon (Shakespeare), Bath (The Roman Baths, the Crescent, and close by Stonehenge) and dozens of other historic and fun destinations.
London can be almost anything and everything you look for when traveling. While the months of May through September are the busiest time of the year, any time is a good time to visit London. One advantage of skipping the high season is being able to also skip longer lines and being able to get excellent seats to almost any top hit play you may want to see.
Another great advantage to honeymooning in or around London is that the "natives" are friendly and, should they learn you are from Texas, they are often down-right hospitable too. As a matter of fact, should you decide to "venture across the pond", make a point of getting at least a dozen copies of Texas (that very big and beautiful publication available free from the Texas Department of Tourism) which presents one of the best show & tells you can possibly get -and give. These magazines accomplish a lot more than just good will. Because the magazine is so large and so heavy, the room they take up on the outbound trip is room available for your purchased gifts and souvenirs on the return trip!
Getting to London is as easy as going to DFW airport. A number of airlines fly non-stop from DFW into and out of one of two London airports; Gatwick or Heathrow. Once there, getting around is almost as easy as getting there. You have the Underground (also known as the Tube) that can take you nearly anywhere in London proper - plus to and from Heathrow Airport; you have a great railroad system (Britrail) that can take you nearly anywhere you want to go outside of London - including to and from Gatwick Airport; and you have London's renowned double decker buses and famous cabs - two people can share a London cab and go all over the city for about the same cost as taking the Tube. One very decided advantage to using a cab is that you get to see more and most taxi drivers will be more than happy to give you a running commentary of the sights, the history and local color as you drive by.
London is a city to be strolled. In Fort Worth we may stroll Sundance Square or The Stockyards. In Dallas we may stroll the West End and McKinney Avenue. In London you can stroll nearly the entire city: walk along the Mall from Nelson's Column in Trafalgar Square to Buckingham Palace.
You can stroll Piccadilly on a weekend from Park Lane (past The Hard Rock Cafe) to Piccadilly Circus while browsing the artists' wares that are hung on the fence along Green Park. You can stroll from Trafalgar to the Houses of Parliament passing the Horse Guards' Barracks, Downing Street (the Prime Minister's official residence is within shouting distance) to Parliament Square with Big Ben on your left and the exquisite Westminster Abbey just ahead of you and across the square to your right. You can stroll along the Embankment (Thames River); stroll Covent Garden (no longer a flower market but dozens of shops, pubs and eateries); stroll through "The City" (this is older London with St. Paul's Cathedral, historic pubs - like Ye Ole Cheshire Cheese - and for an astounding sense of history, visit The Tower of London (built nearly 500 years before Columbus set sail for America).
Then you have those places where you go to stroll-and-look: The British Museum is worth at least 1/2 a day to stroll-and-look. Then if you have any interest in art you have (at least) the National Gallery and the Tate Gallery. If you are a history and museum buff next stop could be the Victoria and Albert Museum or - if you are not - how about the original Madame Tussaud's Wax Museum (and don't overlook the Planetarium show while you are there). Of course you will want to stroll-and-look as well as stroll-and-look-and-spend through some of the great stores like Selfridges and Harrod's (while at Harrod's don't miss the side street named Beauchamp Place - pronounced Beachum - for additional shopping and some good restaurants). But, don't let all that strolling and looking and shopping make you too tired because evening in London means Theatre (comedy, musicals, mysteries, British farce or Shakespeare) and/or some great dining experiences and/or anything from cabarets to casinos or just stop at a local pub to "chat up" the locals.
Accommodations in London range from quaint bed and breakfasts (by the hundreds) to 5-star deluxe hotels (by the hundreds). You are likely to find a package tour that is your best buy and is not what you think of as a real "tour" - you would get your roundtrip air, the hotel and maybe a travel pass - and you can save big time!!! Theatre tickets, rail passes, day excursions and the like can also be purchased here, in the U.S. before you go.
London is a destination well worth looking into for your honeymoon. Check with a travel agent who specializes in honeymoons and has first hand knowledge of London (they charge no fee) and get some good detailed information. A honeymoon specialist should have great London knowledge.
Honeymoon: Seven Days in Paris, France
It was raining the last time I saw Paris – a soft, quiet, Autumn rain that was always comfortable and welcomed that time of year.October always reminds me of Paris – I guess it’s because this is the best month of the year to visit… something I used to do with some regularity.
Paris is one of the most unique and one of the friendliest large cities of the world and the people are absolutely wonderful.
We will take a look at a honeymooner’s Paris – the sights and sounds – small unique places to visit and intimate experiences to share with your love. We will take you to some of the world’s best known sights, take you on strolls that few visitors have experienced and tell you about a lifestyle that is made for lovers.
Let’s start with when to go and how to get there. The time to go to Paris is NOT in the summer. It’s not that you wouldn’t enjoy Paris in the summer it’s just that there are too many tourists, too many hot days and (in August) too few Parisians (this is their "get away to the country" month). The perfect time to visit is the Fall, preferably October, and the late Spring, preferably the end of April and beginning of May.
Coincidentally, the late Spring and early Fall times also are what the airlines call "shoulder season" which means it costs less than during the high tourist season but more than during the winter months.
Paris is a an expensive city to visit but if you know where to go and what to do you will find that you aren’t spending that much more than at any other top resort or destination.
Paris will easily occupy a week or more of your time – and that’s just for starters. If you decide Paris is for you, don’t cut yourself short – the experience of Paris is something that is well worth a full week of your new life together.
Paris is one of those cities that must be "experienced", not just visited, and to experience Paris you will walk, take a bus, take a boat and travel throughout the best and nicest subway system in the world – but – mostly you will walk!
While walking is by far the best way to see Paris, point to point travel is most often accomplished by using the subway system known as the MÉTRO.
Metro Mystique
Here is the finest subway system in the world – especially if you are a visitor. It is straight forward, simple and fun.
You’ll want to purchase a 5-day pass called Paris Visite. You can buy this “pass”at any of the main Metro stations. You’ll get unlimited city travel (metro & bus) as well as a few discounts to other places of interest.
Metro stations are literally everywhere in Paris and seldom further than a few blocks apart. The trains run from about 5:30 in the morning to 12:30 a.m. to most destinations. Trains run as often as every two minutes but seldom will you have to wait more then five to seven minutes at off-peak times of the day.
The Metro is a series of 15 separate lines which, simply put, have trains running back and forth between two end points. Most of the lines criss-cross making it simple for you to change trains (and change direction at the same time). All 15 lines are color-coded and numbered (1 to 15). To make the system work for you all you need do is find the station you want to go to, find the name of the line that intersects that station, follow that color-coded line to the end terminus where you find the name of that line. The stations where two or more lines meet have well marked signs saying correspondance which direct you between lines.
Before you start out memorize the name of the end-of-the-line terminus in the direction you want to go - when changing trains (if necessary at all) just follow the signs saying “corresondance”, followed by the name of that end-of-the-line terminus.
Your first day in Paris should include a short acclamation of the Métro, a trip to the Étoile, and a stroll down the world-famous Champs Elysées. All of this will give you a chance to, almost simultaneously, catch your breath, be overwhelmed, and to settle back into the Parisian’s lifestyle.
While all of this may sound like you are about to run yourself ragged on your honeymoon, you will soon see how leisurely a pace this really is – but wait, I’m getting ahead of myself – let’s start with your arrival in this "city of lights".
Traveling from the U.S. odds are you will arrive in Paris in the late morning and, odds are, by the time you get settled in to your hotel you will be hungry, excited and tired; and not necessarily in that order.
Plan to take it pretty easy the rest of this afternoon and evening. Get something "light" to eat (see foods in next month’s Part III of this article) and then take one of the most fascinating strolls of a lifetime – you are about to get your first true taste of Paris!
By all means plan to learn where the nearest Métro station is to your hotel and how to take the Métro to "The Etoilé" or more formally "Charles de Gaulle, Etoilé" where you will come out at one of Paris’ major landmarks, and its national symbol of unity, the Arc de Triomphe.
The arch stands at the center of "the Étoile", a confluence of twelve major streets, but most importantly for you, the Étoile sits at the top of one of the world’s most famous and glamorous boulevards. Before you stroll down the Champs Elysées take the pedestrian tunnel to the center of the Étoile and visit the Arc de Triomphe - this is where you will find one of the best overviews of the city. A 284 step climb takes you to the viewing terrace over 150 feet up – better yet – pay a few franc and take the elevator to the top – you’ll have plenty of time to climb steps in the days to come!
At the top of the Arc take your time and drink in the sights. Looking down the Champs Elysées you will see the world famous art museum, the Louvre and the cathedral of Notre Dame just beyond – and then off to your right, there it is, the Eiffel Tower and, in total contrast to the history in front of you, behind you and in the distance is the modern business center of Paris, Le Defense.
Once you’ve had your fill of breathtaking views return to the base of the Arc and take the pedestrian tunnel that marks your way onto the Camps Elyées and start your stroll down the right hand side of the boulevard - by this time of day this is the side that is in the shade but this is also where you will, almost immediately find the Office of Tourism and the "American Drugstore".
Stop in both of these places for a few minutes. In the drugstore browse and see what’s what in Paris. Next, go into the "Office de Tourisme" and make your reservations for the only bus ride you’ll want to take in Paris. Parisvision offers inexpensive 1/2 day, actually about 3 1/2 hours, tours of the city and they are well worth the time and money. While we are not big on organized tours, this trip gives you a great overview of the city as well as helping you decide where you will want to go back to and spend more personal time.
While at this office I suggest you also pick up tickets for a Bateaux Moches cruise on the Seine (though I do not recommend the evening dinner cruise because I feel its too expensive and offers a meal that is not very good). The afternoon cruises give you good sights and the evening cruises (that is the cruise-only, not the dinner cruise)give you good lights - weather permitting we prefer the non-meal evening cruise.
Now, let’s start the stroll!! The Champs Elysées slopes gently down hill from the Arc de Triomphe to the Place de la Concorde at the entrance to the Tuileries Gardens and the base of the boulevard. The distance is just over two kilometers (let’s say a mile and a half max) with sights and sounds all along the way.
Between the Arc and the first major intersection with the Avenue George V (super posh street going off to the right) are dozens of upper end banking interests, car dealerships, shops, cafes, and (across the street on the other side of the Champs) a couple of very interesting shopping malls – just for fun, on another day, try the mall with the McDonald’s in it – but once you get to the corner of Avenue George V and the Champs Elysées – STOP – after all this is Paris, you are on one of the major streets of the world – and there is FOUQUETS a cafe which is a favorite haunt of movie and TV celeb’s. This is NOT inexpensive BUT you are on your honeymoon, this is your first day in Paris, you are in the heart of the action – so – stop, have a cup of coffee, a beer, or a glass of house wine and do what the Parisians do best – people watch!!!
Once you have taken in the sites and sounds from your café (don’t miss looking for the world famous night club "Lido"across the Champs Elysées and a bit back up the street) continuing walking down the Champs Elysées and watch the gradual changes as the boulevard goes from highly commercial to a more relaxed and subtle atmosphere. At the Rond Point des Champs-Élysées, where the Ave. Montaigne (the avenue of haute couture, with Nina Ricci and Christian Dior heading a list of the very best of the very best salons of the area) joins the boulevard, you will find the Petit Palais and the Grand Palais on your right. The Petit Palais is home to the Museum of Fine Arts while the Grand Palais (glass dome) houses exhibitions and special exhibits –
both of theses buildings were built for the exhibition of 1900. If you cross to the far side of the Champs look for the Galerie Élysées – this is the forerunner and model from which all modern day shopping malls were derived – a great place to browse!!
Continue down the Champs and enjoy the gardens and fountains of the Élysées Palace (on your left) home of the president of France. As you approach the Place de la Concorde the boulevards spreads out further and further with more and more garden areas.
At the Place de la Concorde you want to make your way to the very center, where the obelisk stands. From this vantage point you can look back up the Champs Élysées to the Arc de Triomphe, then turn around and with your back to the Arc look through the Tuileries to see yet another Arc de Triomphe called the Arc de Triomphe du Carrousel – symmetry is everything here – the smaller Arc at the far end of the gardens will appear the same size as the large Arc at the Étoile – across the Seine stands the Palais Bourbon (home of the French Senate) and with your back now toward the Senate you see its counterpart Le Madeleine. This is considered to be one of the most beautiful open squares in the world!!!
We’ll leave you here on the square for now. The Place de la Concorde is a hub for the Métro which means you can quickly get to just about anywhere from here.
There are many more strolls ahead – great little bistros and out-of-the-way restaurants to visit – plus some of the world’s great sites – Paris by day and Paris by Night – no matter how you look at it Paris is a city for lovers and a perfect honeymoon destination.
Day Two - While you will probably sleep-in the first morning, plan to spend the afternoon on a Parisvision bus tour of the city.
It is a 1/2 day ride that allows you to get a highlight tour of the city while also getting a feel for the history of the city. If you haven’t already purchased your tour tickets (see November’s Paris article) you can do so late in the morning for the afternoon tour. Once you have completed the tour you will probably want to take a break at a local café, return to your "favorite" site of the tour to do a little more in depth sightseeing and then do a leisurely dinner, Parisian style.
Though we will discuss foods and dining in a later article, on your first full day in Paris you may want to get a taste of the local color with an evening visit to the Latin Quarter on the left bank. Here, in the pedestrian-only streets bordered by the famous Boulevard Saint Germain to the South and the river Seine on the North, you will find restaurant after restaurant and café after café. Here you will find Italian, Greek, Lebanese, French, Moroccan and more, and more, and more – take your pick, check out the menus and prices before you go in (menus generally are posted on the door or a stand in front of the establishment). On any given evening here, you will find street mimes, musicians, jugglers, and fire-eaters. After dinner, if you have the time and energy to explore the area, you will find well-preserved Roman Baths just across the Saint Germain, or you can walk a few blocks west along the Saint Germain for desert at either of two very trendy and famous cafés, Café des Deux Magots or, directly across the street, Café de Flore or if you can’t handle desert yet then continuing along the boulevard west you come to the ancient church of St. Germain du Pres where on most spring, summer and fall evenings artists display their wares along the fence of the old church (take note) for the tourists. (Great sightseeing but this is not the place to buy.) BUT – all of this can wait for another evening – tonight we sightsee!!! From the Latin Quarter along Blvd. St. Germain there are numerous METRO stations (that marvelous mode of transportation discussed in last month's issue) and a METRO station means mobility.
You will want to go to "the Alma" or more precisely the Metro station Alma-Marceau or its "left bank" counterpart, Pont de l’Alma. From the Latin Quarter’s nearest metro station, St. Michel, you have a strait shot to Pont de l’Alma where you can take a quick walk across the bridge, turn left and jump onboard your evening cruise on the Seine, the Bateau Mouche – note – there are other Bateau cruises available, most notably the one hour cruises departing from the right bank of the Pont Neuf.
These cruises, while very commercial, are very good. You see Paris from a whole new perspective and even with the hundreds of seats and, often, hundreds of tourists, this can still be very romantic. You will see the lights of Paris and you will see Notre Dame from the river, the Isle St. Louis, the Eiffel Tour, the Statue of Liberty (that’s right – Eiffel built the framework and France gave it to the U.S. as a gift!!!), the Louvre museum, and on and on – the cruise is really nice, really, fun, really inexpensive and really something you really need to do – really!
By this night’s end you should have a general overview and feel for the city. There is much more to come and many more hours and days of experiencing a new way of life – which actually dates back to the days of early Rome.
With an overview of the city, by day and night, now out of the way you will find Paris even more romantic and more charming than you had previously imagined.
Be sure you have taken the time to learn how to best use the Metro.
Now you will have a chance to really see the city - through the eyes of its people!
Over the next few days you can stroll along the Seine, visit one of the world's finest art museums, walk the early morning markets of La Mouffetard and picnic in gardens filled with Rodin's sculptures surrounded by a Medic palace and fountains.
Visit Monmarte, the home of world-renowned artists and a world class church. See Paris from atop the Eiffel tower – see Paris from the rooftops at Printemps, one of the two major department stores of the city.
Get lost in the maze of shops in the new Les Halles pedestrian shopping district – Get lost on the tiny Isle St. Louis and don't forget to stop for the ice cream.
Dine at world-famous gourmet haunts like Le Train Bleu or the Parisian’s common man's chain of restaurants known as Le Boeuf sur le Toit. Visit Lautrec’s Moulin Rouge and Hemingway’s jazz clubs on the left bank. Shop in the bustling new area of renovated Les Halles or the more traditional (but still bustling) rival department stores of Printemps and the Galleries Lafayette.
Where should you start? – Any where you want to ñ it's all great stuff and can be equally enjoyed by the rich and not so rich and the not, not so rich. Paris is a city for lovers - ALL lovers.
Day Three - Let’s start with a day of art and artists; a city within the city, Montmartre - and yet another spectacular view of Paris from the top of the Sacre Coeur. In the shadows of the Sacre Coeur is the small artists’ square named Place du Tertre crowded with artists and small cafés; you have arrived in the heart of artistic history. From this square, and the blocks surrounding it, the likes of Picasso, Pissarro Renoir, Utrillo and Toulouse-Lautrec immortalized this district.
After you have strolled Montmartre go back down the butte into the heart of town for a visit to the Louvre art museum ñ the Mona Lisa, the Winged Victory, and enough Rubin’s, Rembrandt’s, et al, to keep any art lover satisfied for years to come.
Day Four - More sights and sounds today and we recommend an early start. Take the METRO to the Palais De Chaillot (Trocadero Station) and you will have one of the best (and most photographed) views of Paris - the Eiffel Tower - this location commands a view of the tower from high above the Seine with the Palais gardens between you and the river. Walk down, through the gardens, cross the bridge and get ready to ascend to the top of the world. Don’t be put off if the lines are long – they move at a pretty good clip and the wait is well worth it. From the Eiffel Tower stroll over to one of the two METRO stations in the area (one to the right and one to the left along the Seine) and head for the St. Michele station - here, once you’ve crossed onto the island of the Cité you are in front of the catherdral of Notre Dame even if you stopped here on your 1/2 day sightseeing tour - go inside and, this time, take the stairs to the top (not for the faint of heart) to enjoy yet another of those fantastic views you find throughout Paris. Once back on the ground, as you leave the Cathedral turn left and walk around to the back of Notre Dame (still on the Ile de la Cité) not only will you have a great close-up view of the flying buttresses of Notre Dame but, more importantly, just ahead and slightly off to your left is a little bridge connecting to the birthplace of Paris, the Ile St Louis. Cross over onto the Ile St Louis and take the middle street (the Rue St Louise en L’ile) this street, with its very fashionable boutiques is also a mecca of great little cafés and speciality shops – the one store that has to be one of our very favorite in Paris sits at No. 31 and is named Berthillon – while its hours and days open can be a little unusual, should you find it open you will also find some of the greatest sorbets, ices and ice creams on earth!! Once you have had your fill of this quiet little island in the heart of Paris exit at the far end of Rue St Louise en L’ile and turn left crossing the Pont de Sully.
Your next stop should be the oldest, and one of the prettiest squares in Paris, the Place des Vosges. Its a short walk from the Isle St. Louis and well worth it . It is in this setting, at No. 6, that Victor Hugo wrote Les Misérables.
After four days of strolling through Paris you should have a pretty good feel for the city, its major sites and how to best use the Metro.
Now that you’ve gotten the basics out of the way its time to do a little shopping and to take the time to get laid back and to do "a day in the life of" a Parisian.
Day Five - SHOPPING, like so many other things in Paris, isn’t quite like shopping anywhere else in the world. Shopping is as much a sightseeing experience as it is a shopping experience. Today we’ll take you "window shopping" along a few of the world’s best known shopping streets, shopping at two of the premier department stores of Paris (where the Parisians shop) and on to the brash and wonderful Les Halles, with nearly 200 shops (above and under ground).
Start today at the Metro station Palais-Royal (next to the Louvre museum) exiting directly in front of the best known theater in Paris, La Comédie Française. Walk through the archway to the right of the theater and you will enter the gardens of the Palais-Royal. There are three galleries (walking areas with shops) around the plaza (designed after the famous Piazza San Marco in Venice) and all three offer shops and restaurants and history. It is from the Palais-Royal that, on July 13, 1789, the call-to-arms initiated the French Revolution. The most notable restaurant of the Palais is in the Galerie Beaujolais and happens to be one of the most notable restaurants of all Paris, Le Grand Véfour. The shops (all small and artsy) abound and make for absolutely great window shopping in a fantastic setting.
Once you’ve taken the time to stroll all the way around the gardens exit the same way you entered. Cross in front of the La Comédia Française and continue walking straight along the Rue St-Honoré. As you cross onto the Rue St-Honoré don’t miss one of the best views of the Opera, to your right (up Avenue de l’Opera). Continue walking along St-Honoré – you are heading into history (both old and new)– and into one of the wealthiest areas (and shopping areas) of Paris.
As you stroll the Rue take time to stop and enjoy coffee and a pastry from any one of the numerous shops scattered among and between the lingerie, luggage and perfume stores. When you get to number 233 on the Rue St-Honoré, E Goyard Aine, go in this, one of the oldest shops in Paris. While from the outside it appears to be just another luggage store you will a number of unique and unusual gift items scattered among the history of the shop.
Once you arrive at the intersection of the Rue St-Honoré and Rue de Castiglione turn right and you will enter what is undoubtedly the wealthiest square in Paris (and one of the wealthiest in the world) - the Place Vendone - with its central column (1806) topped with the statue of Napoleon as Caesar. To the left side of the square is the most famous (and now infamous) hotel in the world, The Ritz.
Returning to continue your stroll down the Rue St-Honoré you will through history and some of the world’s finest shops with names like Morabito (the rival of Hermes), Lacoste, the Hotel France et Choiseul (where FDR and Eleanor spent their honeymoon), Cadolle (while not a household name) is world renowned as the lingerie shop to royalty. It was in this shop, at No 14 Rue Cambon, that history was shaped (literally) just over 100 years ago when a Mdm. Cadolle, a seamstress, invented the brassiére!
Robespierre lived at No. 400, now a restaurant by the same name – and then you come to the world’s greatest toy store, Au Nain Bléu - take the time to stroll this store even if you have no interest in toys!
The St-Honoré changes names somewhere around here and becomes the Rue du Faubourg St-Honoré. Continue on the Faubourg St-Honoré all the way to the Palais de l’Élysée and you will see the names and places of Gucci, Cartier, Lancome, Guy Laroche, Courréges, Pierre Cardin, Ted Lapidus and Yves St. Laurent – you will pass by the British Embassy, the American Ambassador’s residence and more.
Work your way back a few blocks to the Rue Royal. You will turn left here and walk toward La Madeleine, on 18th century church in the style of a Greek temple - BUT - before turning left, look to your right. The the right hand side of the Rue Royal, just before it disappears into the Place de la Concord is one of the best known (and most expensive) restaurants in the world, Maxim’s.
Walk to the church, La Madeleine, and walk around to the right of the church (you want to end up on the far side of the church where the Rue Royal changes names and becomes the Rue Tronchet) and take time for a quick glance into one of the more expensive department stores in Paris, Aux Trois Quartier, then continue up Rue Tronchet two blocks to Blvd Hausman. At the intersection of Tronchet and Hausman (but on Hausman, across the street to your right) is one of the great department stores of Paris, Printemps.
While New York has had its department store rivals (Macy’s and Gimbel), Paris has Au Printemps and, just a block to your right along Blvd Hausman, Galleries Lafayette.
Enter Printempts (our favorite between the two) and get a store flier (in English) to help you through the store - but - whether you get the flier or not you will want to head to the sixth floor to the food hall (if not for lunch at least for a snack, and, if not for a snack at least for the view)!
Printemps was built in 1865 and is the prototype for all department stores that followed. In 1923 the domed roof (in the food hall) was added and is not a historic monument!!! If you can find your way out onto the roof (exit to the roof from the food hall) you will have a view of Paris that few tourists ever see, from nearly rooftop levels.
If a "food court" is not your idea of a Parisian’s lunch try Le Pub, next door in the Galleries Lafayette. Le Pub has waitress service, good food and reasonable prices.
Between Printemps and Galleries Lafayette is the Metro and rail station of Havre Caumartin. Once you have satisfied your department store urges and had a chance to grab a bite to eat your next shopping/sightseeing experience is along the RER express (or metro) line to Chatalet-Les-Halles.
Les Halles is a perfect example of taking a run-down, undesirable area of the city and making it one of the most successful and thriving shopping districts of any city. Nearly 200 shops, restaurants, cafes, theaters, and art galleries make this pedestrian mall one of Paris’ favorites. Take your time to stroll the area and walk the streets of the area. Keep following the signs for the Centre National d’Art et de Culture George Pompidou or Beaubourg as it has most recently been called. The Pompidou Center (Beaubourg) was a late 1970’s architectural marvel that first took on the nickname of "The Gas Works". While some Parisians joked about the origin of the nickname being from the food found at the top floor, self-service restaurant, the nickname actually came from the unusual and daring architectural feature of putting ALL the conduits (air conditioning, electrical, etc.) on the OUTSIDE of the building in pipes - ergo making the structure look like a gas factory…nevertheless, today Beaubourg has become the number one tourist attraction in the city!!!
Among other things Beaubourg houses the National Museum of Modern Art offering Picasso, Chagall, Warhol, Matisse, Bonnard, and much, much more.
Take time to not only visit the Beaubourg but also stop for a while on the plaza just outside the structure. Day in and day out you will find street entertainers doing their thing - everything from musical groups to mimes and from poets to acrobats. The plaza will give you as much insight into Paris and will the Beaubourg.
Before you move on be sure to take the escalator to the top floor bar for refreshments and more views of the city!
As you exit the Beaubourg turn to your right and walk a short distance to Quartier de l’Horloge - the last stop in your day of shops and shopping. One of the highlights of this shopping mall is an enormous clock that every hour reveals a life-sized warrior doing battle with one or more elements (symbolized by a bird, a crab or a dragon) at 6 p.m. the warrior does battle with all three elements.
By now you should be ready for a break - but - if you are ready for dinner you can either return to Les Halles (we recommend Au Pied de Cochon at No 6 Rue Coquilliére and it’s open 24-hours a day!) or a stroll down Rue Beaubourg brings you to the Hotel de Ville and a quick walk to one of the many excellent café/restaurants on the Isle St. Louis.
Day Six - With a full day of shopping/sightseeing behind you, today you will do what the Parisians do best – relax and people watch!!!
This morning take the metro to Censier Daubenton (on the Mairie D’Ivry line). Exiting the station, off to your left you will see a small old church, St Médard. By walking around to the front of the church and facing the front doors you will be orienting yourself at the base of the escarpment known by Parisians as le Mouffe. This is one of the early morning markets where Parisians come daily to shop for food.
To your left, as you face St. Médard, is Rue Mouffetard. Start walking up this sloping street stopping along the way to buy some cheeses here, some fruits, there, some deli meats, a bottle of wine, etc. Also, don’t overlook the little boutiques that have settled in among the vendors. Many of these boutiques have some excellent buys.
This morning stroll can last for two or three hours and at the end, at the top of the Mouffe the street becomes Rue Descartes and one block later intersects with Rue Clovis. A left on Clovis and one block later you arrive at the Pantheon, resting place of one of the greatest of French writers, Victor Hugo. At the front, a street deadends into the Pantheon. This street is Rue Soufflot and it leads out to the Luxembourg Gardens, you destination for lunch in the park.
The Luxembourg Gardens are called the "playground of the left bank" and hosts a large reflecting pool, numerous fountains, many bronze sculptures of Rodin (including The Thinker), the Luxembourg Palace (the home of the senate) and a strong Italian influence due to the remodeling accomplished by Marie de Médicis following the death of her husband King Henri IV.
Spend a few hours in the gardens, eating, strolling, people watching and relaxing then walk out the front of the gardens to visit the second largest church in Paris (after Notre Dame) St Sulpice. Three blocks further north from St. Sulpice you arrive at the Boulevard Saint Germain and the church of St. Germain des pres. Turn right and you will be retracing your footsteps of just a week ago when you arrive in Paris. If you haven’t yet had "dinner on the left bank" just a few blocks further down the Blvd. St. Germain are the famous eateries of Café des Deux Magots and its main rival, just across the street, Café de Flore.
Day Seven - So much to do and so little time to do it in! This is likely your last full day in Paris. We haven’t covered many of the museums (that is a week in itself) and we haven’t gone outside of Paris to any one of a half a dozen chateaux and we haven’t spent an evening on the town. What we have done is just scratch the service – just given you enough insight to want more.
We leave this day open because everyone has their own thing. You may want to spend the day at the Palace of Versailles (something that most people don’t want to miss) or spend the day horseback riding in the Bois de Boulogne or walking along the Seine!
Tonight you may want to spend at some of the jazz clubs on the left bank or at the Cabaret at Moulin Rouge or Lido.
You may want to finish shopping (just remember duty free shopping at the airport means less expensive perfumes, etc) or return to your favorite site.
Once you have experienced Paris you will have to come back – it’s just that simple – it’s just that beautiful.
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Honeymoon Getaway in Sipapu
Do you really know your spouse? You will after this trip.
The well kept secret, Sipapu Ski & Summer Resort, has not seen very many newly weds, in fact they only see 1% of the New Mexico skiers. Why? They do much advertising. I found this family owned and operated resort through my sister. The Bolanders founded this place in 1952 and have been boasting low prices, abundant amenities and virtually no wait in lift lines ever since. Nestled in the mountains of the Rio Pueblo, Sipapu is surrounded by Pecos Wilderness and the Carson National Forest. Winonah, the owner’s wife, answers the telephone most of the time. The hospitality you find at this resort is of speakable measure.
The summer sees 200 people a day who have come to hike, fish, play Frisbee golf, hunt or camp. The resort is 25 miles South East of Taos, New Mexico, where there is a great 18-hole golf course. Rock climbing and white water rafting are within 30 miles. For the gaming enthusiast you can win some money while getting your dose of Pueblo Indian culture within a days drive. Oh, and let’s not forget the horseback riding, painting workshops and annual craft fairs.
Now that I have your attention, let me tell you about the winter fun. Sipapu offers a varied terrain to support snow boarding, downhill and cross-country skiing. You can expect to find adult ski classes, children’s ski classes as well as private instruction. The Bolanders are willing to find a baby sitter for their guests if there is enough notice given. As I said, Sipapu only sees 1% of the New Mexico skiers. This means no wait in the lift line, learn at your own pace, no fashion show (wear what you want) and relax. Sipapu is a great place for a beginner to learn and a novice to enjoy. It sounds too good to be true, doesn’t it?
Let’s talk money. Southwest Airlines has great fares to Albuquerque where you will rent a car and drive the remaining 140 miles to Sipapu. There are duplexes, suites, apartments, cabins, bunkrooms, dorms, RV parking, camping and a motel. Camping near a pond or stream is $8.00 for the entire family per night and a Deluxe two room suite with two queen size beds, kitchen, and living room with fireplace will sleep 6. 2 people for $72*.
Of course, it is in the woods and there are elk, deer and occasionally black bear, but the real concern is: are you ready to spend a lot of uninterrupted quality time with your loved one? If so, this is the place, with no TV or telephone you are sure to get acquainted.
The well kept secret, Sipapu Ski & Summer Resort, has not seen very many newly weds, in fact they only see 1% of the New Mexico skiers. Why? They do much advertising. I found this family owned and operated resort through my sister. The Bolanders founded this place in 1952 and have been boasting low prices, abundant amenities and virtually no wait in lift lines ever since. Nestled in the mountains of the Rio Pueblo, Sipapu is surrounded by Pecos Wilderness and the Carson National Forest. Winonah, the owner’s wife, answers the telephone most of the time. The hospitality you find at this resort is of speakable measure.
The summer sees 200 people a day who have come to hike, fish, play Frisbee golf, hunt or camp. The resort is 25 miles South East of Taos, New Mexico, where there is a great 18-hole golf course. Rock climbing and white water rafting are within 30 miles. For the gaming enthusiast you can win some money while getting your dose of Pueblo Indian culture within a days drive. Oh, and let’s not forget the horseback riding, painting workshops and annual craft fairs.
Now that I have your attention, let me tell you about the winter fun. Sipapu offers a varied terrain to support snow boarding, downhill and cross-country skiing. You can expect to find adult ski classes, children’s ski classes as well as private instruction. The Bolanders are willing to find a baby sitter for their guests if there is enough notice given. As I said, Sipapu only sees 1% of the New Mexico skiers. This means no wait in the lift line, learn at your own pace, no fashion show (wear what you want) and relax. Sipapu is a great place for a beginner to learn and a novice to enjoy. It sounds too good to be true, doesn’t it?
Let’s talk money. Southwest Airlines has great fares to Albuquerque where you will rent a car and drive the remaining 140 miles to Sipapu. There are duplexes, suites, apartments, cabins, bunkrooms, dorms, RV parking, camping and a motel. Camping near a pond or stream is $8.00 for the entire family per night and a Deluxe two room suite with two queen size beds, kitchen, and living room with fireplace will sleep 6. 2 people for $72*.
Of course, it is in the woods and there are elk, deer and occasionally black bear, but the real concern is: are you ready to spend a lot of uninterrupted quality time with your loved one? If so, this is the place, with no TV or telephone you are sure to get acquainted.
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